Sterlin18 Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 (edited) My first post here and I've been part of other forums before - Ok so I've dated this older women of 2 years for a year and I broke up with her about 2 months ago - We had a typical falling out due to her doubts and me having trust issues with her - fair enough? So she is a VP in franchasing - just got promoted to that position right before we took some time off (30th birthday in vegas with her girlfriends etc etc) - I always gave her the space she needed and from a younger mans perspective I satisfied her every needs in the bedroom - The problem I have I guess is that she sees herself with an older guy say 35 - I dont have any debt and own my car have investments etc but shes had previous partners and relationships where they own business or whatever it is that makes them more special than I - We talked on the phone last night for 35 minutes just catching up - she was always in and out of town with the franchasing company and has some close friends in SD - Her boss is obviously in love with her and hes married so that boosts her ego - this happened with my ex ex who I could careless about and that was a 5 year relationship - So I sent her some dirty texts kind of out of the blue without even saying hi or anything or whats up etc - kinda of dumb but yeah - trying to respark the sexual fire bewteen us and when speaking to her on the phone she thought it was a little awkward because we hadnt talked (in a week before her last trip) and we no longer have sex - I simply explained that I was just being me and spontaneous fun guy that I always was and simply stated that we talked last week and we dated for a year - I was only trying to spark some fire and see what arroused - Long story short we ended up talking and she felt awkward (in retrospect to the text) but our talk ended up being good and I can tell she was just being a little defensive only because were no longer together and she likes her "time/career" etc - which I always respected and I know that being friends with benefits that feelings will just have to play a cold shoulder regarding that aspect - She had mentioned needing a hug sometimes and wanting a hug in our talks and she mentioned something about cuddling - Again she may of been just saying that but it sounded like theres an opening - again she is very successful and if she wanted to persue other men she could but she really doesnt have time - I simply stated that I would be down for that and it would be good to see her smile and her brown eyes and to just get a hug etc - As an outsider looking in on this given story I would just like some views and opinions on what to expect as a younger man - I know im in a losing position (ATM) but with due circumstances that I dont want to express on a forum I told her when she has time I would take her up on a night out or cuddling to ease her on whatever branch she was going with on the word cuddling - Obviously with a few drinks (or no drinks at all) my charm and making her state of mind feel safe is what im going for to have the benfits as a winning aspect to overcoming her doubts or what I want which is to keep the emotions out as long as possible and keep the benefits - What are some good ways or steps in proving to her I am the man upon gaining this friends (benefits possibly) time back in her life at points when she finds time. Ive been the bad boy and also the nice guy with flowers and dinner dates, dancing, hot bath tub awaiting her when she back on long trips, candle light dinners but also have hand cuffed her and seduced her hardcore....I'm a younger man just looking for some insight on how to gain a closer relationship upon her letting us cuddle - what are some good tips upon this opportunity - Thanks guys and sorry for the long post Edited May 24, 2011 by Sterlin18 added retrospect to text
Author Sterlin18 Posted May 30, 2011 Author Posted May 30, 2011 weekly bump - come on guys - thought there was alot of members on here with advice..
Author Sterlin18 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Posted June 10, 2011 (edited) Wow - well it seems my story was a typical one and all of you must of said go use the search function - but figured I'd share my story anyways So the ex and I havent talked since the last time I posted on here - which was 3 weeks ago via the orginal topic post - She sent me a text this morning that reads; "Hey Sterlin18! Just saying hello =-) Hope you have a great day!" So she sent that normally when I would/could reply when im at work and before she leaves for work - which I think she is back in town via facebook...and I didnt respond right away and I was thinking of not even responding but im not sure if that would of been correct - Now when we were in a relationship - I'd obviously text back within 10 minutes...but in this case I waited 2 hours and in response wrote: "Hey there! Yes thanks!" I realize the focus and attention has to be set back on me after reading LOA and just figured that response was suffice - Anyhow, just figured Id fill in all the people that were so interested in my second chance topic here If anyone would be kind enough to have any incite or approach on the text I replied too that'd be great - As well as any future contact or additional seducing techniques that abide by the LOA would be excellent source of knowledge! Thanks guys Edited June 10, 2011 by Sterlin18 Edited a few words
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