placeholder Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 Almost four weeks ago my (ex)girlfriend broke up with me. I decided to go NC, but was contacted by her days later. She basically said that I could hold on to her belonging until I was ready to see her again and that she was sorry about how she left me and would understand if I couldn't forgive her. She also said she would like to be friends if possible. Then a few days later, she gets mad at me and says how she needs her things back despite me not being ready. She comes over in the evening, however, she isn't mad. Instead she started crying, saying how bad she felt about everything. We agreed to be friends and said we had a special place in each other's heart. A week later, we went bowling together. It was a great night until she dropped me off. We had the awkward "how should we leave?" moment. Since we would normally hug and kiss. Another week later, she offered to take me out to the mall. We browsed and had a bite to eat together. It was almost as if we had just had a date. The next day, we both go to a camp overnight for an event. That evening, she and I get in an argument over something really silly. The day after, the event ends and she drops me off. I tell her to text me if we were going to go to a party at a friend's house later. Well, she texts me as she arrives at the party. She apparently forgot to text me sooner and mentioned that there were people around I didn't like. I originally interpreted that as she didn't want me to come. Why else forget to tell me and mention people I don't like being around? Well, I decided to show up anyway and have a good time. Which I think pissed my ex off. In fact, I'm even worried she hates me for it. I just don't get it. We've had our share of great times together and bad times together since the break up. And sometimes, it feels like I'm the one who broke up with her. Should I stay NC? Or should I find a way to talk to her? Being friends doesn't seem to be working out. And I worry if I stay NC, she really will begin to hate me. I feel like the fact she hates me for being independent means she misses me and is hurt I've been doing "okay". On the other hand, maybe I have been cold to her; being cautious around her to keep myself from being hurt. Augh, what should I do?
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