NicoleM Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 I started talking to this guy online and he said to me ask me anything you want nothing is off the table so I ask him about his past and he stops talking. What the heck did I do?? He said ask him anything and then he stops talking. He has been married before and I wanted to know a little bit about his past and he said to me ask him anything and when I do he doesn't talk to me anymore and logs off. I am confused...... Why say ask me anything and then not talk??
sanskrit Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 Why say ask me anything and then not talk?? Because he purposefully set you up to yank your chain, likely beavis and butthead laughing in a dorm room somewhere.
Author NicoleM Posted May 24, 2011 Author Posted May 24, 2011 I doubt that one since he is 36 years old.
ladyinlimbo Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 I started talking to this guy online and he said to me ask me anything you want nothing is off the table so I ask him about his past and he stops talking. What the heck did I do?? He said ask him anything and then he stops talking. He has been married before and I wanted to know a little bit about his past and he said to me ask him anything and when I do he doesn't talk to me anymore and logs off. I am confused...... Why say ask me anything and then not talk?? Maybe his wife walked into the room and he had to quickly log off.
Author NicoleM Posted May 24, 2011 Author Posted May 24, 2011 (edited) He said he is divorced when we started talking. He said how mean she was,etc,etc. He didn't talk much about her though. I didn't want to pry too much but when he said to me tonight ask him anything nothing is off limits I thought hey maybe I should ask him. I don't want there to be any weirdness when we finally went out on a date ( if there ever was a date) so I thought maybe bringing up his past would be okay since he specifically said ask me anything. I asked him and he doesn't respond........ I see him on AIM but he puts up an away message. Huh?? Was he testing me?? Was that not a good idea asking about his past? Someone please help. I am so confused right now:( Edited May 24, 2011 by NicoleM
sanskrit Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 I doubt that one since he is 36 years old. You saw his drivers license?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 You did the right thing in boldly asking about his past when the door was seemingly opened to you. When meeting people from online, the good ones don't have anything threatening to hide, AND they have an attention span far in excess of that which is known to the scammers out there. The scammers don't need to wait around for you, as there is always a line-up of other victims just waiting to become their next victims So, no matter his reasoning, you should just stick to (common sense) and sift through the many possibilities out there as you have probably been doing, while not willing to reduce your standards or your safety precautions for anyone.
Author NicoleM Posted May 24, 2011 Author Posted May 24, 2011 (edited) That's what I thought. I am almost getting tired of online dating to be honest! I met a great guy and we dated and then he starts mind games hot/cold behavior eventually leaves. I meet another guy and he seems so kind and then he starts this stuff by saying hey ask me anything nothing is off limits and when I do he clams up. I getting really,really annoyed by online daters who play mind games. Edited May 24, 2011 by NicoleM
Sabali Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 (edited) That's what I thought. I am almost getting tired of online dating to be honest! I met a great guy and we dated and then he starts mind games hot/cold behavior eventually leaves. I meet another guy and he seems so kind and then he starts this stuff by saying hey ask me anything nothing is off limits and when I do he clams up. I getting really,really annoyed by online daters who play mind games. He wanted to give the illusion that he was an "open book" to gain your confidence in him but he was hoping you wouldn't "go for the money." It was a risk he decided to gamble on. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose on this one. In addition, this guy spoke negatively about his ex. What makes it worse is that he spoke about it to someone he barely knows and is trying to date. Weak. Edited May 24, 2011 by Sabali
Cee Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 My first thought was he wanted you to talk about sex. And the "ask me" anything was an entry into dirty talk. And when you asked a sincere question, he got mad and blocked you. I'm may be wrong, but I am very cynical about online dating. Even if I'm wrong, the guy sounds like a dikhead anyway. And not worth your time.
Jazzari Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 My first thought was he wanted you to talk about sex. And the "ask me" anything was an entry into dirty talk. And when you asked a sincere question, he got mad and blocked you. I'm may be wrong, but I am very cynical about online dating. Even if I'm wrong, the guy sounds like a dikhead anyway. And not worth your time.^This. I think "nothing is off limits" was his opening bid.
lolo1234 Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 Yeah I've had a few online guys use the same line with me. "ask me anything. I'm an open book.". I swear these ended up being the more shady guys!! Why would tou have to even SAY something like that unless you had something to hide?
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