zipbangpingpow Posted May 23, 2011 Share Posted May 23, 2011 Hey everyone, Ok... Here is my situation. Dated my ex gf for 4 years, broke up 3 years ago. Have never truly gotten over her since then, although I have had plenty of girlfriends, dates and what not since. I pretty much called the shots in the relationship, was a completed douche and took advantage of her kindness for way too long, and she finally had enough. I actually broke it off with her, but instead of her taking me back like i figured... she didn't. Since then, I have tried on and off to see if we could make it work... sometimes it seems like she wants to but she wont let herself, she won't even tell her friends/fam she is meeting with me. We have met on an occasion for a no strings attached thing (her idea), and it always ended bad. last time, she started crying during sex because all the "memories" came back, good and bad. There have been months that have gone by without any contact as well since then. Also, she always still talks to me in "baby talk" and calls me pet names like when we were together... i do this too, it's kind of always been our thing. IT's just confusing because why would she want to carry this on if i was such a horrible guy before, which i was in many ways. Also, I did take her out for her bday a few days ago... because i was back in town and i wanted to do something nice for her. I didn't try anything or push the issue... she seemed happy to be with me... she is always making persistent eye contact with an almost... i don't know how to say it, loving look. but then she'll somehow go on about what a jerk i was.... it's like she has to reaffirm to herself. Before she dropped me off to my car it was kinda awkward, she almost looked like she was about to cry or something... I'm just at a point where I don't know what to do anymore... I have changed for real, I want her back in my life so badly, i'm moved to tears by this... and i'm normally the kind of guy who doesn't get bent out of shape for a woman but she's totally had me for the last 3 years more or less a wreck on the inside. It just kills me knowing she is dating other guys even though i feel like she still loves me deep down.... She always tells me nobody had ever made her feel the way I did.. I have been seeing other women but i would drop them like a bad habit if she wanted to seriously work things out. How do I get her to give me another chance? I've been to alot of so called "guru" websites about dating and although i think that some of them have some merit, I think in this situation it might be different. Should I just swallow my pride and just completely unload how i feel in person?? I did this way back when we first broke up but it was different then, she was still very angry and bitter with me... i think now it's not so bad. I know all her friends and family pretty much tell her to steer clear of me so I have that working against me.... I have never felt this way about anyone and it's just killing me, i need to resolve it one way or another. I did move to a new city although it's not extremely far, only a little over an hour so it wouldn't be impossible. Any women been in a situation like this with a guy? Part of you just can't let go of the past hurt but you can't quite kick him outta your life either? I just don't know if i should take the cool calm approach and just seem like "ehh, whatever" about it or just lay it all out on the line and pretty much let her know how much it's killing me not being with her. Thoughts and insights would be greatly appreciated Link to post Share on other sites
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