58thspirit Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 I've been married for 18 months, with my husband for 10 years. I initially was infatuated by him, adored him and worshipped him. However, as I grew up, as we started going out when I was 16, I became more independant. We had a turning point in our relationship, where he let me down and I changed. He became very depressed, and I wanted to leave him but didn't because he needed my support. I have always wanted a big family, and his family is huge. I felt to start that I was a welcomed part, and I was happy. I now feel suffocated, the run up to our wedding was horrendous because of his parents' own divorce and the family politics that it started. I felt that I couldn't what I wanted to do, and this has just carried on. I feel that he has changed, and when I've needed help he just patronises me. I've told him that I'm unhappy and he doesn't listen. He is rude about my profession, and doesn't seem to actually care about me at all. Yet, when others are about puts on a different face. I've made a very good friend, who I have begun to fall for. I've immedaitly removed myself from the situation, but the fact that I did, I feel indicates that something is wrong. I feel like i'm screaming inside, I don't know what to do, but I'm so unhappy and feel I have no one to talk too. I want to leave him, and having talked with my parents they support me in doing so. I just don't know how, and don't know whether I should try and carry on. I just feel like I've been trying to make it work for so many years now... I just wondered...hoped maybe someone would be able to help? Was anyone else in a similar position, what did you do?
htctouchpro2 Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 have you talked to a marriage counselor? don't throw it all away yet. get some counseling first.
robf1971 Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 . I just feel like I've been trying to make it work for so many years now... I have a great idea, tell your husband everything... it's called communication. Lack of it will destroy a marriage. Then maybe he will communicate back to you.. and from there you can work on things..
Mauschen Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 I agree with the last poster. If you read your post to your husband and tell him exactly how you feel, he will either choose to work on the marriage or he won't. Based on his response, you can make your decision. You have a long history together, and that will be painful to throw away (even if it doesn't seem like it right now). Is he on medication for depression?
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