northernsoul_18 Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Hi all Would love to hear some advice on this situation. Back in the deep, dark, cold winter we had I noticed for the first time a girl that I thought was beautiful. I remember eyeing her up that first night. At the time I was interested in someone else, so I never really did anything. However I noticed that I see her most nights and quite often she seems to sitting where I have to walk past her to get off the train. If I look at her when I walk past she tends to look away out of the window or, to the floor then maybe looking at me when Im on the platform after I have got off. Nothing has happened with the girl I originally wanted. A couple of weeks ago I was on my way home after the football (soccer game) and she was waiting for the train. She was looking in my direction a few times again. Fast forward to late last week, she sat near me again, and when I got up to get off, I saw a woman that I know quite well, so I stopped to talk to her. We're quite friendly as again we travel on the same train nearly every day. I looked over towards this girl and she was blatently looking at us talking, looking not totally happy. When I got off, I was talking to one of the young guys who live on my road and she still had her eyes on me. Today, I saw her this morning, and when I got on the train Im sure she was looking in my direction. This evening, she saw me through the carriage window and came and sat opposite me. She seemed as though she was trying not to look at me. She seemed to keep looking out of the windows, although she could have been looking at me from the corner of her eyes. She sat with her phone clamped tightly in her hands. She looked at me as I got up to get off, but looked away quickly before I could do anything. Thing is I do like her, but she is very hard to read. She isnt the most smiley person I have met. Maybe she is just shy. Im curious as to why she seemed so interested in me talking to this woman? Could she just be shy? Let me know what you think guys:love:
iJester Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Next time you see her, sit next to her and talk to her. Just say that you see her all the time and you shouldn't be strangers, and ask her name and what she does and what she likes doing for fun to start.
ladyinlimbo Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Next time you see her, sit next to her and talk to her. Just say that you see her all the time and you shouldn't be strangers, and ask her name and what she does and what she likes doing for fun to start. I totally agree! There's a good chance she is very shy, or brought to believe that the guy should make the first move......or that she might turn you off if she approached YOU FIRST because you might think she's too aggressive (some guys like to be the one to initiate contact). Just make a point of saying, "Hi, I'm ______. Guess we see each other on here quite a lot, thought I'd say hello. How's your day going?/How was your day?" It's possible she intently watching you talk to the other girl because she wishes so much to talk to you but doesn't know how to go about it...and was a little gutted to see you talking to another girl.
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 No offense but you need to read that thread about the male fitness model/pick up artist to get some tips on how to interact with women.
Author northernsoul_18 Posted May 24, 2011 Author Posted May 24, 2011 Hi guys thanks for the reponses. The issue that I may have in moving next to her is that Im often on the train before she is - would it be acceptible for me to move from where to sit next to her or, would that seem too creepy? I guess it is possible that she could be shy. Ive read a lot on the internet about girls avoiding eye contact with guys that they like. Seems a bit odd to me though. Speaking to female friends they all say that they wouldnt care who a guy was talking to if they arent interested in him. As I mentioned she doesnt smile a lot (or seem to) maybe again its just shyness nycguy - no offense taken at all. If I didnt need help I wouldnt be posting on here. Do you have a link to the thread?
thatone Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 Hi guys thanks for the reponses. The issue that I may have in moving next to her is that Im often on the train before she is - would it be acceptible for me to move from where to sit next to her or, would that seem too creepy? not creepy at all. you can't show interest without showing interest.
Author northernsoul_18 Posted May 26, 2011 Author Posted May 26, 2011 not creepy at all. you can't show interest without showing interest. Thats a good thought, but shouldnt there be some kind of interaction first like us both smiling at each other? nyc I read some of that thread but wasnt sure of the overall point if it. I may have misunderstood, but I do not want to be a pick up artist. I really like this girl and want to try and make something work with her. I just need to learn her 'interested' signals and try and get her cool exterior
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