PhillyDude Posted May 23, 2011 Share Posted May 23, 2011 I had nice first date last night and she called when she arrived home and texted me this morning since she knew I was off today. I'm asking I'm on a budget and trying to save money and would rather see her again when I get paid which is 6/2. But I do plan to stay in contact with her on a daily and show my interest. So I was thinking we go out on 6/4 which is not next weekend but the week after. I kind of hinted during the date last night I wouldn't be available next weekend because of Memorial Day. So is two weeks too long? Link to post Share on other sites
ladyinlimbo Posted May 23, 2011 Share Posted May 23, 2011 Yeah, I'd say it's too long. She's not going to know why you're waiting that long and will either assume you're not truly interested or else you're dating others...........even if you still keep in text/email contact with her. There are so many "free" things that a couple can do, why don't you consider some of them? Can you at least find $20 to be able to afford some ice cream or drinks for the 2 of you? (not booze, I mean juice or pop or even bottled water): -go for a bike ride or walk in the park; -invite her over to watch a movie -look online for outings in your area that are "free" -can you afford some basic fixings for a picnic? eg: a couple of drinks, some cheese and crackers and fruit. I once had a guy take me for a drive to a historical outdoor park and had had this stuff packed. It was so sweet and thoughtful......that was many years ago and i still remember it. -go to a park and toss around a frisbee or baseball What are some of your mutual interests? Maybe we can make some suggestions based on those? What are the common attractions around your neck of the woods? Dating doesn't have to cost you a lot of money. A decent girl will appreciate the 'little things' and just being able to spend time with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted May 23, 2011 Author Share Posted May 23, 2011 Yeah, I'd say it's too long. She's not going to know why you're waiting that long and will either assume you're not truly interested or else you're dating others...........even if you still keep in text/email contact with her. There are so many "free" things that a couple can do, why don't you consider some of them? Can you at least find $20 to be able to afford some ice cream or drinks for the 2 of you? (not booze, I mean juice or pop or even bottled water): -go for a bike ride or walk in the park; -invite her over to watch a movie -look online for outings in your area that are "free" -can you afford some basic fixings for a picnic? eg: a couple of drinks, some cheese and crackers and fruit. I once had a guy take me for a drive to a historical outdoor park and had had this stuff packed. It was so sweet and thoughtful......that was many years ago and i still remember it. -go to a park and toss around a frisbee or baseball What are some of your mutual interests? Maybe we can make some suggestions based on those? What are the common attractions around your neck of the woods? Dating doesn't have to cost you a lot of money. A decent girl will appreciate the 'little things' and just being able to spend time with you. Well i thought in this case it wouldn't be too long because the Holiday Weekend is this weekend. And it's too soon for me to invite her to my place. Link to post Share on other sites
ladyinlimbo Posted May 23, 2011 Share Posted May 23, 2011 Well I guess if you already implied or insinuated that you had plans for the upcoming weekend, then it's not so big of a deal if you don't make plans with her until the weekend following....but can't you at least see her for a quick coffee during the week just to keep connected? Not that you have to. But again, dates don't have to be huge elaborate costly events...and they really shouldn't be when you're in the very early stages of getting to know someone.....sometimes simple is best? Link to post Share on other sites
Cee Posted May 23, 2011 Share Posted May 23, 2011 I agree with ladyinlimbo. Dates can be memorable and not expensive. Philly is an affordable city. I don't earn a lot either, so I stretch my dollar and still go out a lot. Here are some ideas: 1) Picnic in Rittenhouse Square park. 2) Go to First Friday on June 3rd. Completely free and then go to Franklin Fountain for ice cream. 3) Go dancing at the Medusa Lounge. No cover. 4) Go to Philadelphia Pretzel Company and get the best soft pretzels the city makes. They'll be fresh out of the oven and delicious. It will cost you 35 cents. 5) Go to Fiume in West Philly for their Thursday bluegrass night. The venue is like a shoebox, but really fun. You can check out Yelp for other ideas. I use Yelp a lot, especially for event ideas. Go to the event tab and you'll find plenty of free and awesome events. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted May 23, 2011 Author Share Posted May 23, 2011 I agree with ladyinlimbo. Dates can be memorable and not expensive. Philly is an affordable city. I don't earn a lot either, so I stretch my dollar and still go out a lot. Here are some ideas: 1) Picnic in Rittenhouse Square park. 2) Go to First Friday on June 3rd. Completely free and then go to Franklin Fountain for ice cream. 3) Go dancing at the Medusa Lounge. No cover. 4) Go to Philadelphia Pretzel Company and get the best soft pretzels the city makes. They'll be fresh out of the oven and delicious. It will cost you 35 cents. 5) Go to Fiume in West Philly for their Thursday bluegrass night. The venue is like a shoebox, but really fun. You can check out Yelp for other ideas. I use Yelp a lot, especially for event ideas. Go to the event tab and you'll find plenty of free and awesome events. What is first friday on 6/3? And where is franklin fountain? Link to post Share on other sites
Saxis Posted May 23, 2011 Share Posted May 23, 2011 I agree with what's been said already. What's wrong with a walk in the park on a weekday? Doesn't always have to be a weekend dinner date... Preferably not so! No sense potentially wasting a bunch of money on elaborate dates with someone you barely know. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted May 23, 2011 Share Posted May 23, 2011 Two weeks is way too long, unless one of you is on vacation. And even then, the momentum gets lost. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted May 23, 2011 Share Posted May 23, 2011 2 weeks is too long in my opinion. Invite her to go for a hike or something that doesn't cost money. My last bf set up another date immediately after our first. I did end up going to his place to watch a movie, and it was innocent (besides some kissing). I guess it depends on how comfortable you are with that. Dating doesn't have to be expensive, you can be creative. Link to post Share on other sites
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