purpleplanet Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 My boyfriend grew up about 14 miles from where I live, and his mother still lives in the same house. (I know this because even though he owns a house in a nearby city, he still uses her address on his drivers license, so I asked about that address.) I knew his father is a teacher, but yesterday for the first time found out he teaches 4th grade. So he does not bring up the family often. Anyway, yesterday he picked a fight, saying that none of his friends get the "vibe" that we are even dating, so I guess the fact that he keeps me at a distance is subconsciously reciprocated, at least in some social settings. I pointed out that I've never met anyone in his family, and he didn't have much to say. I've brought it up before and he generally changes the subject. It's been over a year and we're still bickering about lack of intimacy? Why won't he just introduce me to his folks?!
Ugly_sexy Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 move on sounds like you have mismatched expectations. he doesnt consider your relationship as serious as you think it is. it could also be that he is not close to his family.
aboheleven Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 yep -- move on. that's VERY odd. you're worth someone that wants to show you off because he is proud to be with you.
Velociraptor Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Why would any woman want to meet her boyfriends parents?
Pyro Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Definitely move on. He doesn't sound committed to the relationship. Why would any woman want to meet her boyfriends parents? why even after being banned do you continue to come back here and troll?
Jazzari Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Why would any woman want to meet her boyfriends parents?Because those are the people who raised the man you love. They know and love him and can tell you all sorts of embarassing childhood stories, lol! It's family. You share family and love. To the OP: I realize not all families are close so perhaps there is a reason he doesn't want to introduce you? If he doesn't talk about them much, maybe they don't get along. So I can see not introducing you, but he should tell you why. The lack of intimacy after so long is worrisome.
alphamale Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Why won't he just introduce me to his folks?! either he is embarassed about something or doesn't want to get too close
Pianiste Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 It's been over a year and we're still bickering about lack of intimacy? What are the things that lack in the intimacy department according to him? And to you?
Author purpleplanet Posted May 26, 2011 Author Posted May 26, 2011 It seems like we've had the same argument ... we both think the other has a too-casual attitude about the relationship. His main complaint: I don't invite him to every happy hour (he shows up so late that he misses them, so I don't invite him all the time). My main complaint, he won't introduce me to his parents. And a bunch of trivial things like the happy hour issue. Thanks everyone for the input. Basically after the responses here, I told him it's been a year, either he's excited enough about me to introduce me to his family, or he's not sure/not excited and he needs to let me find someone who is. I think if it hasn't happened in the next couple weeks, I need to move on. When I asked why I haven't met them yet, he just said "I don't know." So that sucks, we'll see what happens in the next 2 weeks....
FlowerGirly Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 My boyfriend grew up about 14 miles from where I live, and his mother still lives in the same house. (I know this because even though he owns a house in a nearby city, he still uses her address on his drivers license, so I asked about that address.) I knew his father is a teacher, but yesterday for the first time found out he teaches 4th grade. So he does not bring up the family often. Anyway, yesterday he picked a fight, saying that none of his friends get the "vibe" that we are even dating, so I guess the fact that he keeps me at a distance is subconsciously reciprocated, at least in some social settings. I pointed out that I've never met anyone in his family, and he didn't have much to say. I've brought it up before and he generally changes the subject. It's been over a year and we're still bickering about lack of intimacy? Why won't he just introduce me to his folks?! red flag! run
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