VicJay79 Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 I am also pretty insecure as well, and it seems in the same general areas. Here is a bit of background on my story: The Gods have smiled on this poor sap, and have awarded me with a fairly attractive women. Ok, she isn't just attractive, she is BEAUTIFUL, and way beyond my league. She represents to me the girl I would always stare at when I go to the bar, but would never get the courage to talk to. This actually says something, because I can talk to practically anyone, as I love the sound of my voice, and I can be fairly charming. [insecurity about my LOOKS]. I am not a bridge troll by any means. I work out constantly, I do mix martial arts. I however since my last relationship really have been suffering from the concepts of being a 'real man' being a 'gentleman'. My posts here are fairly indicative of this INSECURITY! [insecurity of being a MAN] A couple weeks ago, I sat her down and told her I have a fear of Abandonment [insecurity- Fear of Abandonment]. She claimed to understand, and said promised she wouldn't leave me. I obviously know that promise really doesn't mean much, but it was comforting at the time. Honestly, this Fear of Abandonment was the primary reason I wanted a 'solid commitment' and even wanted to move towards the fast track of engagement! From a cultural perspective, women in my culture don't break things off during the Engagement process.
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