cjyoung1993 Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Long story...ahhh...any advice is much much appreciated Anyways so our relationship started in grade 9 and ended in grade 12. We never really had any problems UNTIL grade 12, when we had to focus on our homework and had less time for eachother. Anyways 3 months into grade 12 she broke up with me, saying she wants to be independent, didnt want a relationship and that we were going to different universities (we're now both going to western ivey...****tt) so she wanted to try to be alone and get used to it. So around 2 weeks into breaking up (I thought we were being exclusive friends as she didnt want a relationship and told me she loved me and that if we were 40 she would marry me...) I find out shes made out with our mutual friend twice... At this point i was extremely angry as I didn't think she could do that to me, she kept telling me she was going places with him and they were just chilling and I thought thats what they were doing...Anyways... So i get pissed off and then she comes to me crying saying shes sorry...she loves me...she knows she wants to be with me etc. etc. for like a week to 2 weeks...So eventually i give in and we go on to have a 'relationship' but a very shaky one. One week she had to go to orlando for a DECA competition and I asked her to think of doing long distance because its going to take a long time for her to build my trust again...she says "I know i want to be with you no matter what and I can try long distance"...she goes to orlando and she meets this guy that she claims is just her friend and i see in all of the pictures on facebook...she also has very little contact with me during the trip and then says...I don't want long distance even though i love you so much I can't do long distance its like death to me...So i'm like ok...you say one thing then do the other and we basically fell apart. Then i go over to her house, she shuts me down and says she doesnt want to be in a relationship with me after she says im the most important person in the world and that she loves me so much. We find out we're going to the same university shes still like i dont want a serious relationship right now...so im like what do you want an unserious one? whR is an unserious one?. So then i asked her for one thing...For her not to go to prom with this guy (because i didnt want to go with her because it would be too hard for me)...She says of course I barely know him and I know it would hurt your feelings...So she plans on goign with another mutual friend of mine after i tell her i cant go with her (she was like begging me). Then she gets mad at this mutual friend or some **** and she emails me saying shes going with derek (the orlando guy)...at this point im like wtf... So i was like if you HAVE to go with derek i'll just go with you because its better for me to go with her than me see her dancing with him and flirting with her and **** and also because she said she wouldnt. She now says..."I don't want to go with you", "I don't want to go with you as friends" ...like 4 days earlier she said she wanted to be friends and loved me so much and i was the most special person to her AGAIN and asked me to go to prom with her as friends which i felt i could not do....and now she just does all this other **** which completely ****s with my feelings...Anyways so shes going to goddamn prom with him and I have no date because we broke up close to the prom date. So I was going with my friends but I don't know how i can bare watching them flirt and dance and **** right in front of my face and I know for a fact I will be extremely unhappy...So now I'm thinking of not going to prom holy **** because of this girl...Should I go to prom?...and how do I cope if I do?...I invested my whole high school life in her and we loved eachother so much for 3 years, then she changed and all of a sudden I don't seem to matter to her at all and that hurts severely...
Chi townD Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Well, three choices....either don't go to your prom, or you find a date post-haste. I'm sure that some of your friends have girlfriends that have cute cousins or something...OR you just go stag, which will hurt you, but believe it or not, would ruin her prom too. She'll feel uncomfortable and guilty as all get out that she broke a promise to you and now you are there with no one and she will the guy she promised you she wouldn't take. Personally, I wouild go with option two. You only have one prom. Have a friends girlfriend hook you up. Have fun and IGNORE HER!!! She's gonna keep an eye out on you to make sure you are having fun so she won't feel so guilty. She may even approach you to say "Hi!" just ignore her and enjoy your prom.
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