naomi86 Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Hello, I am new round here and I need help from you lovely people! I've been with my boyfriend about 6 months now. I've had some really bad relationships before him, but he is fantastic, everything I've ever wanted and because of the previous bad relationships I know when I am onto a good thing. I can't imagine my life without him, already. We live a few hours apart so don't get to see each other as often as we'd like, but that doesn't seem to be my issue. I get upset when we leave one another and when we are apart I think about him nearly all the time. There is just one problem...I get this overwhelming feeling of doubt every now and then, especially after I've just left him, I've always been a little bit of a doubter and I think I am almost waiting for it to go wrong and it perhaps scares me that I don't think it will go wrong. I really do believe that I want to be with him forever, marriage and kids, etc, and I am sure I love him, but its just when people say, 'you just know,' well...what if I don't, 'just know,' is that a bad thing? When I am with him, I am sure I love him, but when I get this doubt I also doubt my feelings for him, how do I know, its proper love and not just that I like him? Oh, I am feeling very confused so I really hope someone can help me. Thanks.
utterer of lies Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 He makes you feel too safe, too secure, so you get bored. Someone should tell him to push you away and create some drama, otherwise you'll lose interest soon. Your past bad relationships left their scars.
Author naomi86 Posted May 23, 2011 Author Posted May 23, 2011 But surely, him pushing me away and causing drama makes for an unhealthy relationship? Surely I should accept that there will be no drama, even though its not what I am used to? I agree with you that I def have scars from previous boyfriends but I don't want get scars from him too. Do you think i feel like this because I feel too secure? Will this go away?
utterer of lies Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 But surely, him pushing me away and causing drama makes for an unhealthy relationship? Surely I should accept that there will be no drama, even though its not what I am used to? I agree with you that I def have scars from previous boyfriends but I don't want get scars from him too. Do you think i feel like this because I feel too secure? Will this go away? I hope for you that you manage to realize how your past experiences affect you, and manage to find a way to fix these things inside you with him. But most women don't manage this.
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