Thaddius Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 It started 4 days ago when I was really mad one morning because of a really bad event that occurred in my life. I was really stressed and acted on impulse and broke up with ex. 2 hours later i regretted it so much and asked to see her that night. That night I apologized deeply and sincerely, i messed up i know, and i hate myself for it but she said she couldnt take me back. Later on i found out that after i broke up with her she cried, and went out and got drunk for the first time in her life because she wanted to forget what happened so badly. I felt horrible that I of all people was the one to inflict so much pain to her. 2 days ago we talked again. This time we talked my initial plan was just to talk to her again so we can end up on good terms. That happened. We had a long intimate talk for an hour and pretty much how much we cared for each other and how we should be friends. She made me promise to never eskimo kiss another girl because its our thing and to never just disappear one day without telling her. She also made me promise to go to her if i needed her and a problem came up. After the talk, we made out and fooled around for an hour. Everything except sex. Finally I took her home and I made a joke about me moving and when she asked if i really was i said no, but i made it seem like i might but im trying to hide it cause i really wanted to see her reaction. She cried, which made me felt really bad so i promised to never disappear one day. What do her actions mean? What is she thinking when she says stuff like that. And why did she fool around with me if we were going to break up. Does it mean anything? I hurt her a lot. I know that. I want her back. And I know she has strong feelings for me that she wants to follow but cant because i hurt her so much and doesnt want to go through it again. We broke up before once and got back together. Can anyone tell me what I should do to try to get her back. I really do love her and i would never cause so much pain to her again cause it hurts me 100times more seeing her in pain.
utterer of lies Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 She made me promise to never eskimo kiss another girl because its our thing and to never just disappear one day without telling her. She also made me promise to go to her if i needed her and a problem came up. which made me felt really bad so i promised to never disappear one day. This reminds me of my first big break-up. I predict lots of ex-sex for some months and soap opera drama.
VicJay79 Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Thaddius, Mistakes happen, and I think the real issue is what is the 'really bad event' in your life that caused you to end things. Its clear she really likes you, becuase you guys are still physical in someway shape or form. That is a very good sign. I would just let this continue to happen, continue to be nice to her, and she will slowly give in. Don't push things.... It started 4 days ago when I was really mad one morning because of a really bad event that occurred in my life. I was really stressed and acted on impulse and broke up with ex. 2 hours later i regretted it so much and asked to see her that night. That night I apologized deeply and sincerely, i messed up i know, and i hate myself for it but she said she couldnt take me back. Later on i found out that after i broke up with her she cried, and went out and got drunk for the first time in her life because she wanted to forget what happened so badly. I felt horrible that I of all people was the one to inflict so much pain to her. 2 days ago we talked again. This time we talked my initial plan was just to talk to her again so we can end up on good terms. That happened. We had a long intimate talk for an hour and pretty much how much we cared for each other and how we should be friends. She made me promise to never eskimo kiss another girl because its our thing and to never just disappear one day without telling her. She also made me promise to go to her if i needed her and a problem came up. After the talk, we made out and fooled around for an hour. Everything except sex. Finally I took her home and I made a joke about me moving and when she asked if i really was i said no, but i made it seem like i might but im trying to hide it cause i really wanted to see her reaction. She cried, which made me felt really bad so i promised to never disappear one day. What do her actions mean? What is she thinking when she says stuff like that. And why did she fool around with me if we were going to break up. Does it mean anything? I hurt her a lot. I know that. I want her back. And I know she has strong feelings for me that she wants to follow but cant because i hurt her so much and doesnt want to go through it again. We broke up before once and got back together. Can anyone tell me what I should do to try to get her back. I really do love her and i would never cause so much pain to her again cause it hurts me 100times more seeing her in pain.
Enchanted Girl Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Who broke up with who the first time you broke-up and what was involved in that situation? You have to find out (although it can't be right away) whether or not your ex has lost all trust in you. Because I've been in HER situation before where my ex broke-up with me although he didn't approach me again and apologize until months had passed by and I was still in love with him, so when he approached me, I reciprocated everything and talked like she did, but kept saying I couldn't be with him and we wound up never getting back together again. I had lost all trust in him and it was just over and I knew I could never take him back, my feelings were just betraying me.
Author Thaddius Posted May 23, 2011 Author Posted May 23, 2011 the really bad event was that we just had finals that day for class and one of my professors wasn't going to give me credit in class cause she assumed I plagerised on a research assignment when i clearly didnt. It was just really frustrating and I had a huge argument with my teacher about it. At then end she said she couldnt do anything and told me to leave. I was in a lot of anger cause it was crucial for me to past that class. Evnetually i told my ex what happened and that was what made her reconsider taking me back a little and she kept on saying she felt like a b*tch because she wouldnt take me back for something like that. But at the end she couldnt bring herself to.
Author Thaddius Posted May 23, 2011 Author Posted May 23, 2011 She also keeps telling me to go for this girl i know named sarah. During our relationship she was always a little bothered whenever i had contact with her. We had a really strong trust in the sense that we wouldnt cheat. But when we broke up she kept saying things like "oh btw, sarah really likes you, you should go out with her" "she'll make you happy" etc etc. what is her purpose for saying this
Author Thaddius Posted May 23, 2011 Author Posted May 23, 2011 How do i found out if she still trusts me. I know thats the root of the problem she is having a hard time believing that i wont hurt her again. But i dont know how to prove it
Author Thaddius Posted May 24, 2011 Author Posted May 24, 2011 Who broke up with who the first time you broke-up and what was involved in that situation? You have to find out (although it can't be right away) whether or not your ex has lost all trust in you. Because I've been in HER situation before where my ex broke-up with me although he didn't approach me again and apologize until months had passed by and I was still in love with him, so when he approached me, I reciprocated everything and talked like she did, but kept saying I couldn't be with him and we wound up never getting back together again. I had lost all trust in him and it was just over and I knew I could never take him back, my feelings were just betraying me. Just thinking that she wouldn't to take me back like you said.... hurts
lovingADove Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 She wants to marry you ... Can't you just buy her a ring? But seriously ... you seem very unsure. That's bothering her ... I think she wants certainty on your part. You moving in ... or you not moving in? That's confusing ... If you not sure, tell her straight you need time to think things through ... don't try to mislead.
Author Thaddius Posted May 24, 2011 Author Posted May 24, 2011 She wants to marry you ... Can't you just buy her a ring? But seriously ... you seem very unsure. That's bothering her ... I think she wants certainty on your part. You moving in ... or you not moving in? That's confusing ... If you not sure, tell her straight you need time to think things through ... don't try to mislead. Yeah i realize a big part of it is because she wants to know i wont just break up again if something big happens in my life and i told her i wont. i told her i love her. that i would never hurt her again cause when shes hurt im hurt x100 worst. And i told her that only i can make her happy. and i really ment it. but at the end it was all useless but she did ask "if one day i regret my decision, will you take me back?" and i answered "maybe, i dont know, if you do, come back to me and we'll see" was that the right thing to say in taht situation? and what was she thinking when she said that
Enchanted Girl Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 Yeah i realize a big part of it is because she wants to know i wont just break up again if something big happens in my life and i told her i wont. i told her i love her. that i would never hurt her again cause when shes hurt im hurt x100 worst. And i told her that only i can make her happy. and i really ment it. but at the end it was all useless but she did ask "if one day i regret my decision, will you take me back?" and i answered "maybe, i dont know, if you do, come back to me and we'll see" was that the right thing to say in taht situation? and what was she thinking when she said that She's trying to accept the idea of breaking up with you. And you have to understand, words are just words and actions speak louder than words. I'm not sure what you should do, but maybe you should try saying,"I'm trying to win you back, but you obviously want nothing to do with me. Maybe I should go after this Sarah girl." It will force her to reveal her true feelings. If she panics and tells you not to, then she still wants to be with you and you probably can earn back her trust over time, but if she says,"I agree", then she is over you already and there's no getting her back.
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