ooopnut4 Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 soooooo i havent been on here in like a year and a half you can look at my old posts for backstory. (dated for 3 years left for someone else). so yesterday i get an email on facebook from her saying this: So I ran into a few people over the last couple of months and pretty much all of them said that you had some not so great things to say about me.. and you're right. I know this is long overdue and probably doesn't mean anything at this point but I just want you to know that I'm sorry. I'm sorry for all the crap I put you through toward the end. You were my best friend for a looong time and you didn't deserve any of the things I did to you. I hope everything is going well with you and that you're happy... why after 2 years i get this.. i think shes still with the dude i dont know. so after mulling on it for a day i wrote this: kind of dont know what to say at all..the whole thing was like the hardest thing I ever dealt with and its tough to think about. You were the best friend I've ever had and then you were just gone so I guess this is all I wanted you to realize..only took you like 2 years haha..so thanks I guess. Why now though? I dont know who or what Ive said to anybody so sorry if it was stupid stuff. after being sad i was angry for a while. anyways I'm good now and GO METS (baseball was our thing she loves the yankees so i figured id be cute and throw that in.) should i have even responded? or responded differently? im so flustered and now keep checking to see if she writed back, ughhhh help
Jono85 Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 soooooo i havent been on here in like a year and a half you can look at my old posts for backstory. (dated for 3 years left for someone else). so yesterday i get an email on facebook from her saying this: So I ran into a few people over the last couple of months and pretty much all of them said that you had some not so great things to say about me.. and you're right. I know this is long overdue and probably doesn't mean anything at this point but I just want you to know that I'm sorry. I'm sorry for all the crap I put you through toward the end. You were my best friend for a looong time and you didn't deserve any of the things I did to you. I hope everything is going well with you and that you're happy... why after 2 years i get this.. i think shes still with the dude i dont know. so after mulling on it for a day i wrote this: kind of dont know what to say at all..the whole thing was like the hardest thing I ever dealt with and its tough to think about. You were the best friend I've ever had and then you were just gone so I guess this is all I wanted you to realize..only took you like 2 years haha..so thanks I guess. Why now though? I dont know who or what Ive said to anybody so sorry if it was stupid stuff. after being sad i was angry for a while. anyways I'm good now and GO METS (baseball was our thing she loves the yankees so i figured id be cute and throw that in.) should i have even responded? or responded differently? im so flustered and now keep checking to see if she writed back, ughhhh help if i were in your shoes, to keep my sanity i would just assume she wrote you that simply to feel better about herself. for all you know she just saw a movie that reminded her of the terrible things she did and feels bad about it. she's probs doing this for herself. your response was fine, just be careful not to start hoping that she's changed or some nonsense and start wanting her back or anything. just try your best to let it go now.
flitzanu Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 agreed. took almost 9 years to hear this from my ex gf. guilt and karma catches up to everyone at some point.
JasonRules Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 It's called "Dumper's remorse". Don't think anything of it. It's not even about you, but everything about her. She knows she treated you like crap and is now looking for forgiveness. I wouldn't have even bothered replying...too little and way too late
DustySaltus Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 It's called "Dumper's remorse". Don't think anything of it. It's not even about you, but everything about her. She knows she treated you like crap and is now looking for forgiveness. I wouldn't have even bothered replying...too little and way too late Repeat this over and over to yourself.
Beeotch Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 (edited) soooooo i havent been on here in like a year and a half you can look at my old posts for backstory. (dated for 3 years left for someone else). so yesterday i get an email on facebook from her saying this: So I ran into a few people over the last couple of months and pretty much all of them said that you had some not so great things to say about me.. and you're right. I know this is long overdue and probably doesn't mean anything at this point but I just want you to know that I'm sorry. I'm sorry for all the crap I put you through toward the end. You were my best friend for a looong time and you didn't deserve any of the things I did to you. I hope everything is going well with you and that you're happy... why after 2 years i get this.. i think shes still with the dude i dont know. so after mulling on it for a day i wrote this: kind of dont know what to say at all..the whole thing was like the hardest thing I ever dealt with and its tough to think about. You were the best friend I've ever had and then you were just gone so I guess this is all I wanted you to realize..only took you like 2 years haha..so thanks I guess. Why now though? I dont know who or what Ive said to anybody so sorry if it was stupid stuff. after being sad i was angry for a while. anyways I'm good now and GO METS (baseball was our thing she loves the yankees so i figured id be cute and throw that in.) should i have even responded? or responded differently? im so flustered and now keep checking to see if she writed back, ughhhh help Do you still want her back? Anyway, good on her to finally clear the air. An ex of mine did something similar after a year of not speaking. Apparently lots happened in that year, particularly his granny dying that lead him to finally be accountable for what happened between us. I was freshly broken up with the ex and didn't care too much but later on appreciated it and now we're cool. I don't think this is about "second chances" so much as she heard you saying bad stuff about her and is at the point, where for whatever reason, she can "face" you and admit her error. That's all I would take it as and not jump to conclusions or try to be bffs. I disagree with those saying you shouldn't have replied...as we ALL eff up in one way or another and if you're over someone and mature, you can indeed forgive them and move on with your life with a clean slate instead of harboring animosity or unforgiveness or a tit for tat attitude. If my ex apologized, I would thank him and forgive him as I no longer care to "punish" him or teach him any lessons...when you're truly happy and moved on, you want others to be happy too. I however, would not try to be friends and I certainly could care less about if he wants me back or not. So yea....I do think you posted this here though because you're probably not over it....so I would advise again that I would not take this to mean you should be together and just leave it as a "clearing the air" gesture. Edited May 24, 2011 by Beeotch
Author ooopnut4 Posted May 24, 2011 Author Posted May 24, 2011 thanks everyone for opinions and such..im at a crossroads now as i received another reply and i dont know if should answer this one or leave it alone: good to know you haven't changed too much after all these years.. too bad the mets haven't changed either - they still suck! but seriously, i'm sorry for everything.. at one point you knew me better than anyone and i hope you know that that's not who i really am.. shes pretty much repeating the same thing..does she want some other kind of response from me? where do i go from here ughh. Dont know if i would ever go back but I'd be open to just see..i dont know
Ajax Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 good to know you haven't changed too much after all these years.. too bad the mets haven't changed either - they still suck! but seriously, i'm sorry for everything.. at one point you knew me better than anyone and i hope you know that that's not who i really am.. What does she mean by this? Is she saying that who you thought she was is not who she really is, or that the person she really is is not someone who would hurt you? either way it's bogus. If she's not who you thought she was then who is she? And if she's saying that the real her isn't someone who would have hurt you then I call BS, since she DID hurt you. I don't know man, I'd definitely tread carefully.
flitzanu Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 you wanna F with her this time around? just reply and say "ok". nothing else, just "ok". i don't recommend this though because it's going to open up the rabbit hole and she'll contact you more just trying to figure out what that's supposed to mean.
Author ooopnut4 Posted May 24, 2011 Author Posted May 24, 2011 Well I wish I checked ur responses before I wrote back. I wrote Yeah well I still love listening to Keith..you remember all the great **** he would say! Yeah i thought I knew you that why it was so crazy to me what was happening ya know..Im glad you are realizing thats not the girl i knew..And I'm glad to hear from you and hope you are doing good as well. Facebook wasnt really our thing kinda weird talking to you on here so if you have anymore to talk about I still got the same number. I'm thinking if she calls..great if not then fine too. I can't keep reading into these messages. Too much stress. Hope this wasn't a mistake cuz I'd rather her call!!! Thanks everyone
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