Author D-Lish Posted May 28, 2011 Author Posted May 28, 2011 From personal experience, the best way to deal with a sociopath/personality disordered person (who by definition does not have restraints on behavior due to morality or integrity, and who cannot understand/empathize with the impact that their actions have on others), is not to engage. They will never follow the rules if they can get away with breaking them. And they usually believe they can get away with it. Nothing you do will change them, your participation merely adds to the sport. Since it doesn't sound like his spewage is going to be a huge liability in your life or damage it significantly, I'd move on and go radio silence. The important people know better. In time, he will show his true colors to those who buy into his facade, as will you. Guess which one of you is going to be living a real life with real intimacy and people who are true friends? He doesn't operate in the same world you do, nor does he recognize the same rules of conduct. It's natural to feel angry, but if he really is a psychopath he can't be defined in a normal behavioral context. In that sense, he can't be held to the same standards you hold others to. I found that really grasping this concept helped me feel less angry. It is like getting upset when a table lamp doesn't get up and run a 4 minute mile. Thanks, that's the conclusion I have come to as well- any contact would be something he'd welcome- and that would invite more drama.
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