MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Every weekend its the same thing...I miss him I cry. I regret. I have memories. I have ideas for plans for us. I picture him and he's happy, he's free. I'm so sad. It's been since march we broke up. since april 8th he moved out and since april 22nd that we haven't seen each other and 2 weeks we had NC then he needed his mail and I asked him to come home...he blew me off... so 2 new weeks now NC and i am still feeling terrible. i want to text him but i know theres no point. none what so ever. when will i feel better? i have done everything i could. and it still hurts. i just wish i knew if he will ever come back to me. i know he wont though. so i wish i could just stop.
Author MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted May 23, 2011 Author Posted May 23, 2011 also- i have no interest in dating other men right now. none. i have no hope for my romantic future and i'm still completely in love with my ex. i'm trying to make new friends and guess what...they are all either in a relationship or get in one shortly after we meet. its like no one is single anymore...its all about getting in a relationship.
geegirl Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 You've only been 2 weeks NC. It's still very raw and surreal. It's normal to grieve this way. It's almost like a death in your life. You're experiencing a loss in your life. Don't be hard on yourself. These feelings are expected from a break up and it does not mean you must react. You have to feel the pain to get through it. There is no timeline to your healing. But it does matter what you do during this time. Nurturing yourself. Controlling your thoughts. Sitting idle is your worst enemy.
replicant_83 Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 How I understand your pain.. I hate Sundays... My friends are also all in relationships right now. Good, steady ones. Fun! When I said I had broken up with my ex they were happy and started talking about how difficult it is to buy a decent car right now. You know, to take the kids and all. Right now I think one needs to take this day by day, finding something, anything that motivates, and, in my case, I take comfort in my dark and twisted sense of humor. Example: Contrary to my friends I will not have a car full of kids vomit in the near future. Yay. Really, just think about yourself right now, things you would like to do for you. Not about him or other guys. I am having such a horrible day but I plan on getting a new hair cut and a new dress, something to give me the sense of a new start or at least that I can dream about one, lol. Sorry if its a lousy advice
geegirl Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 also- i have no interest in dating other men right now. none. i have no hope for my romantic future and i'm still completely in love with my ex. i'm trying to make new friends and guess what...they are all either in a relationship or get in one shortly after we meet. its like no one is single anymore...its all about getting in a relationship. Completely normal. You've just been wounded. You're still extremely emotionally attached to your ex. Everything you are feeling is everything each one of us here has gone through. It's not an indication that it's the end of all. I had the problem of married friends or ones in relationships as well when I broke up. But I searched the web and joined singles events, volunteer groups, hobby groups, etc., in my area and started building a wide network of friends but have also formed a close knit group of single women friends with common goals and interests in life. Join a gym and start a workout plan and you'll begin to start feeling good about yourself. If you have a passion for a hobby, get involved in it again. If you are spiritual, get back to it. If you have a cause that you are interested in, volunteer. Don't stay home and keep idle. Try to go out and be around people, even if it's going to the library and picking up a book and finding a corner and immersing yourself in it, the book I mean.
Author MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted May 23, 2011 Author Posted May 23, 2011 I already go to the gym and i read and i do my work...i do everything everyone says here with the exception of additional hobbies which i have no time for. i have to work on my dissertation so any extra time goes to that. i'm about to go to the movies with a girl that responded to my craigslist post of needing single girl friends...guess where she was earlier-with a dude she just met. ahh... i just want this to stop. i know hes not sitting there suffering like i am. and yes that makes it worse. i do think the distance and not seeing/hearing/knowing anything helps cause even that little glimpse of his car yesterday and seeing his post on fb set me back. i miss him so much. and you're right that part of me is gone...our relationship died and i know it will never be again.
Sugarkane Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Hi I'm sorry to hear that this has happened to you. Your breakup is only recent, so of coarse you'll feel this way. I just want you to know that it does get better with time. I was like this at the beginning too and now I can't remember the last time I cried over my ex. Eventually you just get sick of being sad all the time. Just take things easy and defiently only date until you're ready, that will take some time. If you rebound it will only make it worse, trust me!
coltsfan1 Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 it is VERY early on in your break up and the wound hasn't healed. It took EVERYTHING I had to help myself along. Even lost a few things on the way. But this experience will help you become a better person and thicker skinned. Just be patient and take it day by day... I know you woman have a terrible time with being patient!!!
Author MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted May 23, 2011 Author Posted May 23, 2011 I don't know why this is all happening or why its fair. I just want it all to stop. Why did we have to be at the movies at the same time. Or should I just be thankful that I didnt see him? His car was parked in the same lane as mine...I saw it when I got out. He was gone by the time my movie let out. I dont know why I see him everywhere. I just want it all to stop.
nana841121 Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 oddly, your post reminds me of the movie <rabbit hole> although this movie doesn't relate to pining over lost of romantic love emotions are similar. here i present some quotes from the movie, hopefully, it can help B]Becca: Does it ever go away? Nat: No, I don't think it does. Not for me, it hasn't - has gone on for eleven years. But it changes though. Becca: How? Nat: I don't know... the weight of it, I guess. At some point, it becomes bearable. It turns into something that you can crawl out from under and... carry around like a brick in your pocket. And you... you even forget it, for a while. But then you reach in for whatever reason and - there it is. Oh right, that. Which could be aweful - not all the time. It's kinda... [deep breath] Nat: not that you'd like it exactly, but it's what you've got instead of your son. So, you carry it around. And uh... it doesn't go away. Which is... Becca: Which is what? Nat: Fine, actually.
Rosa Tamora Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Hi, I started posting here 2 months ago when my bf and I broke up. We lived together and for 2 whole freaking months I stayed at the condo we shared until I was able to move OUT last weekend. Holy hallelujah, right?! I thought I would start bleeding blood from my eyes from crying every day. Trust me, you will be feeling alright soon. I know it's hard right now, you cry at every little thing, but in a few weeks, you will start to feel better. Just HANG ON, HANG IN THERE.....I don't have family in the area at all, and only a handful of friends I can depend on, so if I can move past it and stop the crying, you know it will happen for you too! You guys broke up for a reason. Take this time to grieve it for what it was, heal and take time for yourself. What I did that helped me heal was to get out, get into something new (I joined a dodgeball and kickball league), go volunteer some place you think might need your help. Don't sit at home and wallow because there are many, MANY beautiful things in life waiting for you out there! And this one guy...this one, little guy in your life does not have the right to hurt you so much like this. You will get over it, just like I did. Trust me. Light, peace
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