Stocky Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 (edited) Ok, before you read and reply to this, please no rude answers. That being said, I have 2 very extreme sides to me. One side is very confident and think I am the s*it (in a healthy way) and know that any girl would be lucky to have me, the other side of me is POLAR OPPOSITE and think I am nothing because of my height. When it's just me around girls, it doesn't bother me. It's when I'm around a guy (especially when it's multiple guys) that are much taller than me that I think like that, and yes it's pretty extreme the feelings/emotions that come with it. I guess a problem might be that my father was abusive and very neglectful to my family as a kid so I naturally don't like a lot of guys, but I want to get over it like now. Does anyone have any tips of how to get over this? If I can get rid of this height obsession I can do f***ing anything. Yes, I am a very obsessive person, very ADHD and possible OCD, and I just don't want to think the height-related thoughts/feelings any more. Edited May 22, 2011 by Stocky
mo mo Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 If you take an HGH supplement like USP Labs Powerfull you might grow an inch or two.
Lucky_One Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 Seriously, make an appt with your GP. Ask him about SSRI's. There are meds out there that are very helpful for OCD.
Author Stocky Posted May 22, 2011 Author Posted May 22, 2011 If you take an HGH supplement like USP Labs Powerfull you might grow an inch or two. That's only before your bones seal up before the age of 18, and even then it's like $20,000 worth of HGH to grow like 1 centimeter. And, I'm not under the age of 18.
Jazzari Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 Get professional help for your issues. In the meantime, buy some elevated shoes. It's a quick easy fix until you can get to the root of the problem.
Author Stocky Posted May 22, 2011 Author Posted May 22, 2011 Seriously, make an appt with your GP. Ask him about SSRI's. There are meds out there that are very helpful for OCD. I was prescribed Zoloft and Effexor over the past 2 years, and the Zoloft helped the first week or 2 and then it just felt like I drank too much caffeine. I have yet to take Effexor longer than a week. Also, I don;t like the idea of using drugs. Go to paxilprogress.org and you will read hundereds of people never, ever being the same when off those drugs, and permanently addicted to those drugs.
Jazzari Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 Did you try the elevated shoes? They look like normal shoes and you can add 2-5 inches.
Author Stocky Posted May 22, 2011 Author Posted May 22, 2011 Get professional help for your issues. In the meantime, buy some elevated shoes. It's a quick easy fix until you can get to the root of the problem. I wear military boots (not "elevator", just normal) make me a tad taller, and it seems like it makes a huge difference. I feel SUPER confident when I wear them, but when I take them off I feel not good, so now I just feel fake when I wear them and I don't like feeling fake, even though I wear them a lot (to work and around friends). If I wore them a lot, do you (or anyone) think that is "fake"? Cause I look really, really good in them lol
Star Gazer Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 I wear military boots (not "elevator", just normal) make me a tad taller, and it seems like it makes a huge difference. I feel SUPER confident when I wear them, but when I take them off I feel not good, so now I just feel fake when I wear them and I don't like feeling fake, even though I wear them a lot (to work and around friends). If I wore them a lot, do you (or anyone) think that is "fake"? Cause I look really, really good in them lol How do you think women who wear padded bras feel?
Jazzari Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 I wear military boots (not "elevator", just normal) make me a tad taller, and it seems like it makes a huge difference. I feel SUPER confident when I wear them, but when I take them off I feel not good, so now I just feel fake when I wear them and I don't like feeling fake. If I wore them a lot, do you (or anyone) think that is "fake"? Cause I look really, really good in them lol I don't think there's any problem with wearing them. Girls wear padded bras, push up bras, heels, tummy tuckers, wigs, makeup -all kinds of specialty clothing and devices to make them look better. Elevated shoes are not fake, they're just an enhancement.
Author Stocky Posted May 22, 2011 Author Posted May 22, 2011 How do you think women who wear padded bras feel? They probably feel pretty fake/bad when the guy they are hooking up with takes their bra off and sees that what they have been looking at the whole time doesn't exist! That's what I'm worried about!!!! :lmao:
Lucky_One Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 I was prescribed Zoloft and Effexor over the past 2 years, and the Zoloft helped the first week or 2 and then it just felt like I drank too much caffeine. I have yet to take Effexor longer than a week. Also, I don;t like the idea of using drugs. Go to paxilprogress.org and you will read hundereds of people never, ever being the same when off those drugs, and permanently addicted to those drugs. Ok, then. If you would rather be obsessed because you normal height and feeling like a dwarvish freak, then that is fine with me. But if I really wanted to be done with something, then I would the best resources first. Zoloft might not work for you. You have not given Effexor long enough to work. Personally, I would ask about Luvox for OCD. You could also try psychosurgery, but you aren't a candidate for that until you have given full meaningful trials to several meds first. Personally, I would go with meds before I started in on brain surgery.
Jazzari Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 They probably feel pretty fake/bad when the guy they are hooking up with takes their bra off and sees that what they have been looking at the whole time doesn't exist! That's what I'm worried about!!!! :lmao: There was a thread awhile back that asked about padded bras and how men felt about it. Nobody cared. I doubt women would care about the shoes either.
Author Stocky Posted May 23, 2011 Author Posted May 23, 2011 Ok, then. If you would rather be obsessed because you normal height and feeling like a dwarvish freak, then that is fine with me. But if I really wanted to be done with something, then I would the best resources first. Zoloft might not work for you. You have not given Effexor long enough to work. Personally, I would ask about Luvox for OCD. You could also try psychosurgery, but you aren't a candidate for that until you have given full meaningful trials to several meds first. Personally, I would go with meds before I started in on brain surgery. http://www.paxilprogress.org/forums/showthread.php?p=717317#post717317 Also, brain surgery sounds NUTS. No offense
eerie_reverie Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 For what it's worth, I think 5'9 is the PERFECT height. Not everyone likes super tall guys.
Timmeh Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 http://www.paxilprogress.org/forums/showthread.php?p=717317#post717317 Also, brain surgery sounds NUTS. No offense Having OCD about being 5'9 is also nuts. For white men the average heigth for white males in the U.S is 5'10. You're only 1 inch shorter than average... it's not a big deal. If you're an Asian, Indian, etc, etc that average drops to an even shorter heigth. If you're African American it's around the same as white males.
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 I am about the same height as you, and I am not intimidated whatsoever by guys (or girls) who are taller than me. However, I do get intimidated by guys who are perceived as better looking than me. The general consensus is that I am a physically good looking guy, but not modelesque, so when insanely good looking dudes show up I do feel a little insecure. But height is not an issue for me.
Lucky_One Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Like I said, I wouldn't consider psychosurgery either, until I had tried all the meds available. You won't try them. If you are happier being OCD about being a normal height, then don't try meds. It's as simple as that.
Alma Mobley Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 You should find a therapist who specializes in cognitive-behavioral therapy if you are looking for a way to eliminate the intrusive thoughts about your height.
Author Stocky Posted May 23, 2011 Author Posted May 23, 2011 I do get intimidated by guys who are perceived as better looking than me. . Even if they are the same height or a bit shorter than you? Also, Alma, I am looking into cognitive therapy, I just can't afford it right now
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Even if they are the same height or a bit shorter than you? Yes, up (or down) to a certain extent. I think anyone 5'6" or under is pretty much too short for me to feel insecure about, but above that everyone's competition.
JJ The PUA Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 You should not feel bad about your height. I am the same height as you and have no insecurities about it. The problem is not with you, it's with them. I think it's mostly the women who are insecure about being so tall, or they have other beliefs or issues, such as thinking shorter guy = shorter you know what. Many don't want to be seen in public with a shorter guy because they will feel unfeminine. 50 or 60 years ago it was quite rare for women to be taller than men, but now it's becoming quite common. Hormones in milk and meat are believed to be contributing to this & I've heard that these hormones really kick a girl's growth into hyperdrive, but not so much with boys. I commonly see women who are 6'1", 6'3", or even 6'5" out and about. If they're 5'2" and demanding a guy to be 6'2", then they're just shallow & you shouldn't give them the time of day. It's just as shallow as if you were demanding no woman you date to be larger than a size 0.
oldguy Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 You have expressed that; this is not a height issue its an esteem issue. In another post you had about this same issue, I thought it sounded like a developmental issue & even suggested that because your father was over 6 feet & a pro ball player this might be the case. Now you mention there was abuse & neglect which reinforces my original thought. Like many here have suggested; get professional help. Someone who practices EMDR might be very helpful.
dispatch3d Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 stilts, platform shoes, stand farther in the background/have the guys stand in the foreground so that you appear taller to the camera, date short chicks, only befriend asian males, haha I'm out of other ideas.
shadowofman Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 I'm 5'9" and hang with dudes that are much taller than me. They are the freaks. Haha. 5'9" is the perfect height. Tho it does exclude me from getting with taller girls. While I find tall women VERY sexy, I feel weird banging them.
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