JasonRules Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 I'd like some opinions on the following situation. I've been attracted to a woman for quite some time. She works in the management office of the property I live at. All our contact has been properly related. There is a gym adjacent to the office she works at and she can see me sometimes through the window. The other day I walked in the office to notify them of a problem I'm having with my place and when I walked in the office she said: "When did you get that? [about my car] "I've had it since last July..." "Oh, wow...I've never seen you driving it." "Yea, I leave my place at 8AM and don't come home until 8-9PM" I guess she was looking outside her office window and watched me get out of my car etc. Anyway, I find her quite attractive so when I got home 30 minutes later I decided to send her an email asking her out. I wrote the following: Hi <name>, Sorry for being forward as I have no idea if you're married, engaged, or in a relationship, but if you're free and would like to grab coffee sometime let me know. Regards, <my name> She replied 10 minutes later: <My name>, I am not married or engaged but I am in a relationship. Thank you for asking. You are not being forward at all:) If things change I would like to go out sometime. What do you guys think of her response?
lenny Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 I think she's leading you on personally. I would see this as a warning sign - would you want to date a girl that sets up future dates with other men?
utterer of lies Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 I think she's leading you on personally. I would see this as a warning sign - would you want to date a girl that sets up future dates with other men? I don't think it's a warning sign. The 'future date' thing is just code for 'the attraction was mutual.'
sanskrit Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 I like her response, but ball's in her court now. Try to keep the ball in your court until you do a bit more detective work next time.
Author JasonRules Posted May 23, 2011 Author Posted May 23, 2011 I agree, but I figured I take the risk nonetheless. The problem was that she works in an office and there are other women there and I didn't want to put her in a tight spot. I wanted to keep my interest discreet. I agree that she is probably attracted to me, otherwise I think she would have just said "I'm in a relationship" end of story and not alluded to the fact that she would like to go out with me if her relationship status changes. Also, I think the mere fact that she mentioned that means that she's probably not satisfied in her relationship. Typically, when a woman is in love with a man and in a relationship with him she will not leave any room or possibility of getting together with someone if she's being hit on by another guy. Anyway, balls in her court; I'll just play it cool and see what happens.
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