ouigenkispacibo Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 My boyfriend and I broke up in March this year after being together for about a year and a half. Before we got together, we were really close friends - we gave each-other someone to talk to about anything, which is partly the reason we ended up becoming a couple. When we broke up, we said we weren't going to let it come between what we were to each-other, but we're talking considerably less often - and he's really the only one starting the conversations. How can we get back to talking every day and more importantly, what can I do or say to him to make good conversation - without coming across as too clingy or needy?
Trovador Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 Just be natural about the whole thing, you see I've done that a lot of times, going back the way we were before, and we always wondered how easy and how smooth was to interact as if nothing had happened (we had a lot of breaks)... But eventually, that bored me, we had always a good time, but nothing substantial happened between us, so this last time we are just being civil to each other and talking less and less... In my case, she was the one to initiate the conversations and I wonder how she never got tired of that, but anyway I always joked with her (well, when she was upset I listened to her and showed her I cared, because I did, so I guess the key is to be sincere), I was a confident, bordering arrogance, cool guy, I rarely complained about anything and all her stuff was important (I always memorized the stuff she said to me, so I could ask her later about that, especially names and situations about her family, but in sum, everything she told me I recorded it for future reference)... I guess this shows why she found difficult to leave me... But it's tiresome to be an amateur shrink... and just the best friend of your ex...
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