Trovador Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 I guess the main motive of this thread is to see things under a different perspective, so we can undertake those projects (if we think they are worthy, of course) with renovated vigor, just this time by ourselves... Among other stuff, my ex and I were collaborating in a novel; we were just in the early stages -outlining and researching- and despite I used to think I was going to do most of the work and despite I suggested the whole thing, I never had started said project by myself... Now I've decided to start and most importantly, finish the book, not to show her that I function perfectly by myself (or maybe I want that, ha ha) or that I am happy without her (that I am) but to remind myself that life is great (even without her or who knows, because she isn't in it anymore) and that I have all the right and drive to live at my fullest, and that I am not doing anything just because of her... besides, writing a novel (or any positive project by that matter) is fun... Life goes on (most times happily!)
WillSingForFood Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 Thats great that youre moving on with life and carrying on as you should! Its sometimes hard to do that and to undertake in a project that you worked on with an ex, so props to you for being able to. Im just curious if youre planning on letting her know that youre going through with the book?
Author Trovador Posted May 22, 2011 Author Posted May 22, 2011 She knows very well I feel passion for the stuff I like, writing for example. She told me one of this days "only people with passion create memorable works, but I think you are exaggerating"... so, she knows I will finish the book. Anyway, in one of our truces I asked her for permission to use the plotting, characters and ideas she had contributed so far, so I could start the job. I, alone, that is. She knows the book is still a project, just not hers anymore. Anyway, I intend to submit it to a literary contest in my country or publish it eventually. So she will know that I was serious about the whole thing, but I guess by then it won't matter a rat's tail to me. You know, we also make a mutual commitment to lose weight, since a year ago. She even enrolled a gym, took yoga classes, etc. but she didn't end her part of the bargain. I've lost some 30 lb and intend to reach my goal (50 lb) not matter what happens. She is getting fatter by the day... So I guess that's another unfinished project that I will do my best to end it.
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