Kiana Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 I met this guy not like I would have expected or even though possible, but it somehow just happened. So the story starts like this. Please bare with me, this is long but I really need some advice. One day as I was browsing through my facebook I looked through my friend Joe's pics (not his real name) and saw this very attractive woman (no I am not lesbian or curious just thought she was gorgeous) that was friends with my friend Joe. As I am looking through her pictures, I see this drop dead gorgeous man and say to myself "God when you give me the man who is for me, i want it to be him" - so I go on with my day, but later on that day this Gorgeous man is still on my head. I go back to his facebook and say to myself "oh what the hell I have nothing to loose" so I friend request him on facebook. Long story short, he excepts days later, so fine I never hear from him again. 2 months go by since he accepts me and then he pokes me. With that poke, i respond with an email, we begin chat on facebook, that same day he asks me for my number, we talk he wants to take me out so I make him work a little for it before excepting. So great we go out that night, have a good time, we talk, I dont hold back, I feel nervous but still confident enough to just be myself. One thing that really intrigues me is that he shares a very personal story with me about how his father left his life when he was young. In retrospect, it makes me think that he felt comfortable enough with me to ell me this which not very many guys feel comfortable doing. He could have very well been lying but I felt his pain. Anyway, after that night which came with a few flirts and giggles, we end it with a nice playful non seductive kiss. He asks me when we can do this again and we agree to a day. That day comes and he cant make it because of work, so fine I understand, I don't question it. For the next days, and I mean just about everyday, we text each other back and forth. He texts me when he wakes up, he starts calling me babe! he asks about my day, but really weird thing I begin to notice is that he takes the time to text me but sometimes he will not reply until hours and I mean hours later. Already this IS the indication that he is playing games. So okay whatever no big deal, I play with him. I am curious to know where this is going. It almost feels like we are a couple. We continue to text, and one day he texts me and tells me that he wants to see me on a Friday (this was recent just a week ago). So he calls me to schedule on a Wednesday, great it all looks good, we agree for Friday. Friday comes and I ask him what time we will meet since its a detail we never discussed, and to my surprise he texts me back and tells me "not sure yet". I am annoyed and disgusted, mad! I don't reply and go about my day like normal, I get ready to go out in general not necessarily with him since I already have a strange feeling that it wont be happening. Like I anticipate, he never calls or texts me and the best part is this, two days later, he sends me a text while I am out shopping only to tell me "you must be mad".......seriously who does that. He didn't think an apology was required. At this point a just dont want to give him that satisfaction so I reply and say " oh no not at all". of course his reply is "hmmm" because he finds it hard that I would not be mad. Hours later he texts me to ask what I am doing. I never reply back until next day in the evening. I reply telling him that I have been busy with school work and I hope he is well. he replies not even 5 min later and says " you too, I see you are busy, good luck" my question is, does good luck mean good bye. Thats really I he has made me feel. Its been almost 4 days, no call no text from him. Should I give it more time, should I text me.....or is this just not even worth it? I can tell he is a great guy but somewhere along our communication something got lost in translation. I think we are both missing out on a down to earth friendship which really is all I would prefer but dont think its what we have established. Is there a way to show a guy that all you want is his friendship after he has already made a prejudgment and thinks he has you all figured out. again his last words to me were good luck, should I call or text?
thatone Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 he stood you up, you want to be friends with him why? you don't, you want him to be what he's not. get over it, let it go. next time he texts you you have the perfect opportunity to tell him to stop calling/texting you, then you can feel a lot better thinking you're the one that got rid of him. i would suggest you do so.
Lucky_One Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 It almost feels like we are a couple. I can tell he is a great guy but somewhere along our communication something got lost in translation. I think we are both missing out on a down to earth friendship which really is all I would prefer but dont think its what we have established. No. You aren't looking for a friendship at all. You are looking for a romantic partner, and you had a bunch of texts and one date built up into "feeling like a couple". You are lying to yourself and saying you want a friendship, just so that you can feel that it is ok to text/call/chase a guy who clearly is a jerk. You can't tell he is a "great guy" because you don't even know him. You don't know if he is married, if he is dating anyone, if he has 5 concurrent FBs. So no, short answer, don't call him. Don't text him. Delete him from FB so that you don't stalk his page or start obsessing over him. This was a short-lived fantasy on your part, and giving him another minute of your time will only be detrimental to you.
mortensorchid Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 No, don't call him. Who cares what his story is, he's not interested. If he's not interested, let alone considerate or brave enough, to solidify your plans let alone discuss things one the phone rather than a text. Whatever his story or reasons are, he's not worth your time. Move on.
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