oneofakind Posted April 13, 2004 Posted April 13, 2004 [color=blue]so...i've never been in a relationship before. i had never been on a date before either until a couple of weeks ago, and i need your opinion about it (the date described in the next paragraph). i talked to an impartial source about the date, and she thought that there was no (love) connection with my date. some of things i described about my date, according to her, were the "normal" things dates are suppost to do during dances; the date either dances with you or just totally avoids and disses you. she just thought that my date was being "respectful." well, after reading these details about my date, i would like some other opinions as to whether this date had "sparks" with it. Does anyone think that my date and I have a possibility of starting a relationship? anyway, i was desperate for a date for prom (and had never been to any formal school dances b/c i was dateless), so i decided to ask a friend to prom. he's about 1.5 years younger than me (i'm already 18). at first, he turned me down b/c he said he was "broke." then, the next day, after finding out that i still didn't have a date, he decided to go with me afterall. i then noticed he started talking to me a lot more after i asked him. when i arrived, he got me a corsage with real flowers. if this isn't any more pathetic, i had to drive him to the dance. i guess i shouldn't be picky, but grateful the dinner before the dance was fun. we talked a lot (and laughed some too) while in the restaurant. the funny thing was, the strap on my purse kepted falling off, so he was sweet enough to fix it. at the dance, he had his arms around my waist most of the time (except for the slow dances-regular, traditional style). a couple of times, while he had his arms around my waist, i locked my hands into his. when people took pictures of us, he wrapped both of his arms in front of me. i guess that means he was comfortable with me . i also heard him singing while some of the slow songs were playing, felt his face and him breathing on my neck (if that means anything). after the dance, we went to his house. didn't really do much, just watched t.v. when i was ready to leave, he walked me to my car (and it was kind of cold outside-he had changed into shorts and a tank top).[/color]
MustBeGoingCrazy Posted April 13, 2004 Posted April 13, 2004 Prom is *expensive* for guys, and you don't even get to keep the tux! Hah, I went through two, but wouldn't change a thing for the world. Far too much hip hop was played, but that gave us a chance to chill and walk around some (and leave early to go on a walk downtown by the canal ) Did he feel at all nervous, shaking, etc. Palms sweaty, etc. when you locked hands? That would be the only real indicator I would see of him liking you as more than just a friend. I think it's just one of those situations where you need to figure out what you want, just a friend, or something more, and then you need to figure out what he wants, then figure out if it's possible to work your way there without damaging your friendship. Regardless of if any sparks were there, it sounds like you had fun, and that he did his best to make it a special night for you
ThisGirlNameKD Posted April 13, 2004 Posted April 13, 2004 Sounds like this date was more than you expected. It would be alittle premature to say this is love being that this is your first date. I think you're confusing the excitement and high of actually being on a date for love. You really don't have much to go by or compare it to in order to find out if something more can come out of it. It does sound like a respectful date. But nothing hurts to ask him out again. If he says yea then that's a good sign. If he says nay, well, you've got your answer.
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