JaneyAmazed Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 This morning I was talking to my husband about dreams we have while we're sleeping. I remember my mom used to have nightmares for a long time after she discovered my dad's affair. She would dream of him and his xOW together. My husband said he has those dreams sometimes but not often. I never have dreams of xOM. I almost think it's God's way of letting me rest from trying to escape the memories during the day. I think I may have had one dream of xOM months ago, but since then I only dream of my husband and me if I have a sex dream. Oh, well once I did dream I was with some guy in my neighborhood I find repulsive so that was a nightmare. I was just curious about your dreams since dday no matter who you are, BS, fWS, fOW, or fOM?
10yrs Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 OMG, I woke up a couple of hrs ago from an intense dream about the GF of my AP. It was so real, and it is a repeat dream that I've had before. They do not live together and they have never been married. They have lived together on and off for 10 years, same amount of time I've been in the affair. She moved into an expensive house last Fall. My dream was that I was invited (and went) to a party at her very fancy and expensive condo. We're talking billion dollar condo! This is the condo in the dream, her real house is only expensive cuz of the neighborhood. I kept trying to change my clothes to something more flattering. For some reason I had brough a bag with extra clothes. I was in her bathroom changing but it was taking forever and I kept putting the wrong thing on and I wanted to leave but I forgot my bag in the bathroom and couldn't get back in and on and on and on. Then I finally was all packed and ready to leave, but I was wearing the frumpiest outfit of all, and I got lost trying to find my way out of the condo. It was soo stressful. AP was there but he was ignoring me. I woke up very stressed. I guess it would show that I am jealous of it all...big surprise there.
greengoddess Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 OMG, I woke up a couple of hrs ago from an intense dream about the GF of my AP. It was so real, and it is a repeat dream that I've had before. They do not live together and they have never been married. They have lived together on and off for 10 years, same amount of time I've been in the affair. She moved into an expensive house last Fall. My dream was that I was invited (and went) to a party at her very fancy and expensive condo. We're talking billion dollar condo! This is the condo in the dream, her real house is only expensive cuz of the neighborhood. I kept trying to change my clothes to something more flattering. For some reason I had brough a bag with extra clothes. I was in her bathroom changing but it was taking forever and I kept putting the wrong thing on and I wanted to leave but I forgot my bag in the bathroom and couldn't get back in and on and on and on. Then I finally was all packed and ready to leave, but I was wearing the frumpiest outfit of all, and I got lost trying to find my way out of the condo. It was soo stressful. AP was there but he was ignoring me. I woke up very stressed. I guess it would show that I am jealous of it all...big surprise there. Fascinating. I would love to have someone do a dream interpretation of this. Were you an ow for ten years?
10yrs Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 Fascinating. I would love to have someone do a dream interpretation of this. Were you an ow for ten years? Yes, and I still am. We've gone up to 1.5 years NC back in 2005/6. Went NC for a month just recently. The GF knows of our history, but supposedly she thinks we haven't been seeing each other the last 3-4yrs. I haven't posted my story yet, but read here every day. The dream tells me I'm competing and trying to win AP, but I know I never will. He is competing and trying to get GF to marry him, but she has put him off for 10yrs. My presence allows their relationship to continue. He acts to her the way I act to him. Always accepting crumbs. Don't want to hijack thread, but it was so weird that I had this dream today and saw this thread. I can still feel myself in her condo. I was trying so hard to look stunning and looked so darn frumpy and then I was trapped in the condo and it was humiliating. GF saw me there but ignored me, gave me a dirty look really. And then AP just walked right by me the only time our paths crossed. He would throw me under the bus in a heartbeat, is the look he gave me in that brief encounter. He's done it before. I think I have the dream when I'm really thinking about the GF and feeling jealous. Like I said, no big surprise there.
fascinated Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 No dday here, but I have anxiety dreams all the time. That's how I would characterize 10yrs dream. The most significant part of your dream is how you feel during it, not the specifics. You're stressed about the situation, so you have stressful dreams.
vweb1218 Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 Never had a D-day but did dream my MM's W was naked, pregnant, extremely pale and bruised up.. Have no idea what this might mean.. They don't have children !
bentnotbroken Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 Never had a D-day but did dream my MM's W was naked, pregnant, extremely pale and bruised up.. Have no idea what this might mean.. They don't have children ! She is naked because she is innocent. Extremely pale because she is in the dark to the crap going on around her. She is pregnant with hopes and dreams of a future and bruised because she is being abused by you and him.
greengoddess Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 She is naked because she is innocent. Extremely pale because she is in the dark to the crap going on around her. She is pregnant with hopes and dreams of a future and bruised because she is being abused by you and him. oh that's good.
bentnotbroken Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 oh that's good. :DMakes as much sense as anything that will eventually pop up here.
Author JaneyAmazed Posted May 22, 2011 Author Posted May 22, 2011 I guess I should have posted this in the other section. I was more curious about dreams after the affair than during, but it's ok to share those too. I was thinking about the difference in my mom's dreams and my husband's. I think my mom had such intense dreams for so long because she was married 32 years and was blindsided. She asked my dad lots of questions and wanted to know details. She still regrets knowing the details she knows now. My husband was blindsided, but we've been married less than half as long and he has never asked for details of the affair. I think that in some ways it helps him because he doesn't have to replay things that would just hurt him more. On the other hand, his imagination might be worse than reality. I don't know, I'm just thinking aloud. It might just be that some people dream more than others about these things.
Author JaneyAmazed Posted May 22, 2011 Author Posted May 22, 2011 She is naked because she is innocent. Extremely pale because she is in the dark to the crap going on around her. She is pregnant with hopes and dreams of a future and bruised because she is being abused by you and him. There's a lot of truth in this interpretation. I love your posts, bent.
vweb1218 Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 She is naked because she is innocent. Extremely pale because she is in the dark to the crap going on around her. She is pregnant with hopes and dreams of a future and bruised because she is being abused by you and him. Maybe dream analysis is your thing, sounds about right.. He was wearing bright yellow and blue does that mean anything ?
bentnotbroken Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 Maybe dream analysis is your thing, sounds about right.. He was wearing bright yellow and blue does that mean anything ? Yellow represents the stripe running down his back and blue represents lack of oxygen...to the brain or ballz (in this case one and the same).
vweb1218 Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 Yellow represents the stripe running down his back and blue represents lack of oxygen...to the brain or ballz (in this case one and the same). Thats not nice.. I am sure he has enough oxygen in both his brain and his "ballz":cool:
bentnotbroken Posted May 24, 2011 Posted May 24, 2011 Thats not nice.. I am sure he has enough oxygen in both his brain and his "ballz":cool: I doubt it. Petrified objects don't.
bentnotbroken Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 What the hell are you calling petrified ??? Probably your vag !! hahahahaha... you've had enough to eat for today.
KR10N Posted May 25, 2011 Posted May 25, 2011 I often dream **** that makes no sense. Alice in Wonderland type dreams to be precise. And clowns, ****ing CLOWNS!
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