Pregnant fiance see's me as family member, cant even kiss me

[dontknow11]

i understand sparks die in a relationship...we had roots of this before her pregnancy...we hadnt been having a lot of sex...i would want to but she didnt seem receptive so i stopped trying...we then discussed it, and she said even though she doesnt want to initiate it, she WANTED me to make her want it...so once i got the go ahead, we started having sex all of the time for about 2 weeks...but then she got pregnant...she says during those 2 or 3 weeks, things did start to improve...they werent the way they once were, but it was a start...but once she got pregnant, she totally got out of the mood all the time...she felt sick a lot and i understood that...but then, even when she wasnt feeling sick, she wouldnt want anything and wouldnt let me try...she was seeming distant emotionally...i got her to do something once about 2 weeks ago, and she wasnt in the mood but she did it...fast forward a couple days later, she tells me she has lost all physical attraction to me and loves me like a family member...she cant even kiss me now without crying because it hurts her and feels weird to her...we have a great relationship...fights here and there but she's said its beyond that...she knows we could work through that and make things better...but she cant even kiss me now and i moved out of our house...basically, i know sparks fade, and even though there were roots of this in the past, it seems pretty sudden that she would make such a drastic change that the cant even kiss me...i'm hoping hormonese are just greatly magnifying things, and we can get back to at least being able to work at it like we were before...anyone who has ever lost the physical attraction to their partner, was it ever that bad that you couldnt even kiss them romantically? Like since we've been talking (and we havent fought about this, weve both been very understanding cuz we are both hurting), but i joked could we have casual sex if we broke up and she said no because thats the thing...she see's me as a family member now and that would be weird...any advice or similar situations please respond...im looking for any sign of hope

[TaraMaiden]

Hormones are pretty crapped up during pregnancy.

Give her space, and time.

remember, she's carrying your child.

 

 

If once she has the baby, she's still distant and disconnected - sever all ties - EXCEPT with your child.

 

You have a responsibility to that baby.

You owe it a stable upbringing.

 

She is in your life for ever, because of that.

Deal with it, and move on.

but be there, 100% for that kid.

[dontknow11]

oh definitely...we are both going to be great parents...we've talked about that...and friends afterward, as long as i could accept just that...our trust is so strong between us and we both care so much for the other...we havent fought at all during this because we both hate that its happening...but yea we are totally committed to the baby

Edited May 22, 2011 by dontknow11