SunsetRed Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 I recently met someone and was feeling vulnerable at the moment and gave him my #. I now regret giving him my # and haven't returned his calls and I am wondering if I am right to cut my losses or if I should've given him a chance. He approached me as I was sitting outside on the beach. Basically he approached me from behind and stood beside me and kind of barked out "nice weather we're having, huh?" Inwardly I rolled my eyes and said yeah. His next question to me was "are you married?" I wasn't friendly back, just said "no, are you." He said no and then moved a little closer to me and said "well, can I have your # so we can get to know each other better?" I wasn't attracted to him and we certainly didnt have an over the top conversation, but I was in a funky mood so I just gave him my #. Now he's calling everyday and I just dont have the energy to meet someone who's first, ok second sentence to me was "so, are you married" Am I being too judgemental or does this guy deserve a chance?
Sabali Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 Well, how is seem as a person? That is the important question here. Does he seem to be worth your time? Asking if you are married before he waste both of your time is a legitimate question. While not presenting with the strongest opening, He got right to the point.
Author SunsetRed Posted May 22, 2011 Author Posted May 22, 2011 He's probably not a creep or a bad guy, just someone with poor social skills. Still, I'm not excited about meeting up with him at all. There was nothing in his demeanor, approach or conversation to make me want to know more. I want to meet someone that I'm excited about going out with. I'd love to have that butterflies in my stomach, "Yay, i've got a date feeling" instead of "Oh god, whoa is me..I've got another lifeless date to suffer through just to prove I'm trying/getting out there."
Sabali Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 Well, I think the answer is clear. If you are not excited about it why torture yourself? Dating is supposed to about fun. It shouldn't feel like a job interview, therapy, homework, house chores or torture.
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