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Can you have never been in love, and still have the ability to be in a relationship?

LeaningIntoTheMuse

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LeaningIntoTheMuse Established Member

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Very strange title, but I want some honest answers.

 

As someone who has never been in a relationship, but is a hopeless romantic, I still yearn for love. I don't want just sex - if I did want to get my rocks off, I'd use my hand or a fleshlight - I want love and companionship.

 

I always thought that love could come at any age, but I'm starting to realize that I have an expiration date. That being said, do I still have the ability to be in a relationship, even at 28 and no experience?

TouchedByViolet Established Member

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Yes, it is possible. Single women and men are looking for love and a relationship at all ages.

 

The no experience part will hinder you toward some females but those chicks are ignorant of your plight so try not to let it get you down.

Jazzari Established Member

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I don't think you need experience to be in a relationship. In some ways, I think people without prior experience are better off. They don't carry the baggage that many do.

Yamaha Established Member

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My God dude, why don't you answer the question?

 

Do you think you have the ability to be in a relationship?

 

If the answer is yes, then why even pose such a question?

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Inexperience is only as big of a deal as you make it. For most people it isn't a dealbreaker, and it's something you don't need to advertise to the world. When you are in the beggining dating stages, simply don't say anything about it.

carhill Established Member

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OP, two things:

 

One, yes, you can, and IME, 28 is too young to be asking that question. Your 'expiration date' is when you die.

 

Two, it's Saturday night and most people are actually out dating, so responses are generally slower and/or delayed until Sunday.

Cee Established Member

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Like job world, it's easier to get a relationship with experience. But everybody starts from the beginning. Learn to not fear failure and mistakes. I had a hard time learning to ski. Out of desperation I went to the top of a hill and purposely fell 10 times down the hill. Once I discovered that falling wasn't bad, I had the courage to ski. And I did.

 

Ask a few women out and see what happens. I know you have BDD, so if you can't see yourself as reasonably attractive, then make some platonic friendships. Friendship has been good relationship experience for me personally.

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Floridaman Established Member

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Very strange title, but I want some honest answers.

 

As someone who has never been in a relationship, but is a hopeless romantic, I still yearn for love. I don't want just sex - if I did want to get my rocks off, I'd use my hand or a fleshlight - I want love and companionship.

 

I always thought that love could come at any age, but I'm starting to realize that I have an expiration date. That being said, do I still have the ability to be in a relationship, even at 28 and no experience?

There's no "expiration" on love.:)

People find love into their 60s... 70s....

 

Like the others said, 28 is not too old. I didn't start seriously dating until I was 26..... it took about 4 yrs. to find the real love of my life...

 

Was I upset I couldn't find anyone in my 20s?

Sure. I'd see the many happy couples and friends and cousins getting married.

Had many lonely nights and wondered why I couldn't attract women. Thought God had forgotten about me.

 

But.... meeting my future wife at 30 and marrying her a couple of years later, it felt so right...

Like it wouldn't have been right with anyone else... just her.

Was so glad I didn't marry earlier...

 

And am glad her engagement in her 20s wasn't successfull (so she would be available for me in her 30s)... and she's likely glad I didn't marry the girl I dated in HS... nor get that HS GF pregnant.:o

 

Remember feeling how it wouldn't have been as good if I married some of the other women I dated (and wanted to marry) in my late 20s, esp. that judgemental 30 y.o. virgin I dated at 26....

It was worth it finding my love at 30 and marrying her at 32...

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Your question doesn't make sense. Don't you fall in romantic love WHILE you are in a relationship, not beforehand?

 

And please, NOBODY has an expiration date!!! People of all ages find love every day and 28 is still young considering a lot of people do not marry until their 30's.

somedude81 Established Member

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Anybody know what happened to muse? He hasn't posted in over a month.

 

Anyways, yeah this is a weird thread. I don't think anybody falls in love before their first relationship.

 

I believe that my first girlfriend will be the first person I'll ever love.

alethean Established Member

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Anybody know what happened to muse? He hasn't posted in over a month.

 

I was just wondering the same thing.

Floridaman Established Member

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Originally Posted by somedude81

Anybody know what happened to muse? He hasn't posted in over a month.

I was just wondering the same thing.

I know him from some other boards (he uses diff. screen names, like me). He and another woman at one of the boards (she used to post here) used to contact him and each other via emails.

 

Need to email him and see what he's up to. It seems he can't get PMs here..

 

FYI, I used "generic" web-based emails like yahoo to ensure privacy for all parties...

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