aislehc77 Posted May 22, 2011 Share Posted May 22, 2011 My ex and I were divorced after 6 years of marriage, 8 years ago. We have 2 children--12 and 10. Our post-divorce life started off rocky but after that first year, it's been fantastic. We often get comments about how amicable our relationship is. The kids are with me during the week and with dad on the weekends. Here's where it gets tricky. I've regretted our divorce since about a year after things settled down. He was addicted to online video games and I couldn't take it anymore, so I finally left. ANYWAY, other than the games, our marriage was FLAWLESS. We were high school sweethearts and it was THAT good. Fast forward a few years. I'm re-married and have a 3 yr old and 10 mth old with my current husband. We have had issues since the day we left the courthouse. We are two very different people who come from VERY different backgrounds and we probably never should have gotten married in the first place. It makes me sick to even say that. BUT it is what it is. I've had several different incidents where I thought he may be cheating--hundreds of txts from another girl, a mutual friend telling me of a time he saw my husband w/another woman, he signed up as a member in an online personals site, I could go on. I've never had anything solid as proof, so I trusted him. We went 14 mths without having sex--from when I became pregnant with my youngest (because pregnant women "don't do it" for him) until he was almost 6 mths old. He said he didn't initiate because I didn't. I didn't because I'm tired of him giving me excuses as to why he says no. So.....my ex-husband and I have been very good friends for a long time--we've known each other 20 years. My mom recently passed away after a battle with cancer. As soon as my mom passed, I literally had this unexplainable experience. I am absolutely 100% head over heels still in love with my ex-husband. I had this thought of what would I do if I found out I had only 6 mths to live, who would I want to spend that with? It's the ex--hands down, no questions asked. I have children. If I didn't, I wouldn't even think twice. I need to see what other--un-biased people think. Link to post Share on other sites
homebrew Posted May 22, 2011 Share Posted May 22, 2011 (edited) Let's not jump ahead to step 57 just yet. Let's focus on Step 1 first! Step 1 - You are alone in a miserable, abusive and loveless marriage with a man that cheats on you (doesn't matter if you have caught him or not). You need to decide what you want to do and then take action. Your choices are... 1. Continue to be alone, miserable and abused by a man who cheats on you. 2. Try and fix it. (which from the sounds of things, isn't a real possibility) 3. Start divorce proceedings. What's it going to be? If it's 1 or 2... Your life will only continue to get worse and you can forget ever being with the Ex-husband. If it's 3... You will have an opportunity to find happiness and find a man that truly loves you, cares about you and respects you. Who knows, that person could be your Ex-husband. Edited May 22, 2011 by homebrew Link to post Share on other sites
Frank13 Posted May 22, 2011 Share Posted May 22, 2011 I agree with Homebrew. Does your ex want you back? Is he still addicted to online video games? I have to wonder about a guy who lets his wife divorce him in a flawless marriage due to video games. Have to wonder what his priorities are. Link to post Share on other sites
homebrew Posted May 22, 2011 Share Posted May 22, 2011 Regardless of the Ex... She needs to deal with the problem at hand. Link to post Share on other sites
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