Manufan5 Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 Hi, please help. I've dated my ex for about 6 months and a half, I am very deeply in love with her, we hungout everyday and she was evrything to me, we did get in many arguments however, silly arguments over stupid stuff, and a couple of times she threatened to break up with me but she didn't. Two days ago, I was talking to her on the phone and she told me that she was thinking about us and broke up with me. She said that I am the perfect guy who every girl would want, I am so sweet, good looking nice, and couldn't ask for more, but the reason she broke up with me according to her is that she wasn't ready to commit in a serious relationship, she said she was scared to let herself go too deep in love with me and get hurt (her ex who she dated a year and a half ago cheated on her and treated her like ****). She told she doesn't want me to get out of her life, she doesn't wanna lose me, she still wants to go out for coffees mall movies and stuff like that just not as boyfriend girlfriend. I am very crushed, I love her to death and it hurts because I didn't do nothing wrong, she just thinks I deserve better because she doesn't want to completely let her guard down and love me as much as I love her. I want her back really bad, she's my first girlfriend and I really want to have in my life again. I don't know what to do, I just don't want to think that she wi,, never be mine again, please help. Thanks in advance.
EgoJoe Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 Play it cool bro. Do not text her, do not call her, do not do anything with her. When she comes around play it cool, be non-chalant, no matter how hard it is. Start getting into more activities etc. Sounds like you're young...I am too. Girls are crazy until 25-30ish depending and I've been told they are not guaranteed to simmer down at that point either. Don't listen to what she says, pay attention to what she does...remove her from facebook, etc. She needs to know what life without you is truly like.
Author Manufan5 Posted May 21, 2011 Author Posted May 21, 2011 I'm 22 she's 20, and it's hard because she text me and she call me, Im so in love with her, I don't want ignore her and push her away, I just want to hangout with her (she told me we can't hangout for at least another week because it's still fresh) and hopefully she will want me again
EgoJoe Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 Tell her that you can't make a habit of talking to your ex-girlfriend so soon after she broke up with you and that it's very selfish of her to maintain contact.
Author Manufan5 Posted May 21, 2011 Author Posted May 21, 2011 Tell her that you can't make a habit of talking to your ex-girlfriend so soon after she broke up with you and that it's very selfish of her to maintain contact. She said she broke up with me because she loves me and doesn't want to hurt me, but im shattered
Kilty Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 (edited) She said she broke up with me because she loves me and doesn't want to hurt me, but im shattered You do realise that's bull**** right ? If you love someone why would you break up with them ? See it ? At best she might love you but not be "in love" with you. At worse it sounds also as if she is trying not to feel guilty about ending it and there is a chance that there is someone else. I realise this is not what you want to hear and im sorry for suggesting it but it's best you prepare yourself for the worst just in case it goes tits up from here on in. There are many scenarios and thats just a couple. Have you been coming on strong, have you been pressuring her into getting engaged/married/ living together or been too possesive in any way ? If the answer is no to any of these questions then there is another reason why she has ended it. If you have then it could simply be a case of her feeling too young to get tied down. As has been said before strict NC is the best course of action and things will maybe become clearer Edited May 22, 2011 by Kilty
Author Manufan5 Posted May 22, 2011 Author Posted May 22, 2011 You do realise that's bull**** right ? If you love someone why would you break up with them ? See it ? At best she might love you but not be "in love" with you. At worse it sounds also as if she is trying not to feel guilty about ending it and there is a chance that there is someone else. I realise this is not what you want to hear and im sorry for suggesting it but it's best you prepare yourself for the worst just in case it goes tits up from here on in. There are many scenarios and thats just a couple. Have you been coming on strong, have you been pressuring her into getting engaged/married/ living together or been too possesive in any way ? If the answer is no to any of these questions then there is another reason why she has ended it. If you have then it could simply be a case of her feeling too young to get tied down. As has been said before strict NC is the best course of action and things will maybe become clearer At first she wanted to live together then she said that because she wanted to convince herself that everything is OK, and what's NC?
Trovador Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 You are aware that she took the easy way out, right? I mean, were you to break up with a girl, wouldn't you say those same words? That she was unique, the best, blal blah blah? The faster you accept it is over, the better you will be... NC mean no contact, at all, because staying around her will make you suffer like hell... For a dumper it's easier to be friends with the dumpee (that's you, my friend) because it's VERY CONVENIENT... they know you are crazy about them and that you will do anything for them, so if you like to be used be her friend & maintain contact with her, otherwise, cut your losses, walk away with dignity and learn the lesson... you are young and you seem a fine kid, so you will be fine...
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