confused611 Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 so i've been dating this guy for going on 7 months now. it's not serious, although we've taken several romantic weekend trips together and, in the beginning, spent almost every single day/night together. we discussed the possibility of it becoming a serious relationship later on, but he is about to study for the bar and move to a different city (still not too far away) and we decided it was best to just keep it the way things were. since then, while things haven't been as intense as they were when it first began, we still see each other and he always tells me all the things he loves about me, why i'm such a great girl, and how amazing the sex is. recently, he bought us tix to a concert and we had an amazing time there. can't lie, we got prettyyyyy drunk, and to his credit, he had been partying all week/weekend before the concert. so when we got home, obviously i anticipated that we were going to have sex. but when it came time, he said "i'm sorry, i'm too exhausted, maybe tomorrow" and we went to sleep. didn't end up happening the next day either. i asked if it was something i did or said while we were drunk the night before and he said no, i was amazing and he had a great time. this has never happened before. since then, i saw him at his graduation and while he seemed happy to see me, he also seemed a little distant. i get it, graduation is overwhelming and there is family and people everywhere and everyone wants a chance to congratulate you, but i came specifically for him and all i got a short thank you text out of it. do you think that he is just overwhelmed and anxious about bar prep starting on monday? or do you think he's suddenly lost interest in me, even though he still tells me all time how great i am?
PrettyLady1 Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 I think the sex part is big concern. When guys loose interest if the opportunity to have sex comes up they are going to take it, even if they dont plan on staying with that person. It seems like he still has feelings for you, i mean he took you to the concert and invited you to his graduation. Those are not places you take some booty call to. Find out why he doesnt want sex anymore especially if you guys still havnt had it.
Sacred-Self Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 there can be a million things going on and the best thing you can do is ask him sternly what he is feeling. My guess though is that he is possibly beggining to dettach himself from you so it'll be easier when he has to leave because when I begin to dettach my self from girls I stop having sex with them. Do not jump to conclusions though I am simply an observer speaking from my own perspective.
sanskrit Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Too drunk one night >>> too hungover the next, has foiled many plans for sex. Or perhaps he didn't want to make the same huge faux pas I made once, and thoughtlessly said "I'm gonna go throw up" just after climax. I think your apprehensions about him not sexing you may be coloring your perceptions of him since. But if not, maybe he's trying to do the mature thing and draw away gracefully as the move approaches?
Author confused611 Posted May 24, 2011 Author Posted May 24, 2011 looks like i was a little premature with my worries as went spent this past weekend together, had a ton of sex, and had a great time hanging out! i still think there might be some concern on his part now that his bar prep classes are starting, but seeing as i don't put a lot of pressure on him or ask a lot from him i think we can keep things going well.
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