Elisa89 Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 but words are said so easy... and they keep hanging us on! And some situations keep us from acting.. So, my question to you is: Why would someone say "I'm in love with you, but I'm not ready right now"? Why do some people prematurely make future plans, such as talking about vacation together with someone you just met but cannot be with at that point? And why would someone tell you how compatible you are, how wonderful the time spent together is, when both know the timing of you two meeting is just off? And why would you ask someone to take thing slow and give it time, if you aren't really interested in making it work? I know it is said to be a "nicer" way of rejection. But I just cannot buy that. Why on earth would someone reveal his/her vulnerable side/feelings, just to lead someone down nicely? Oh, just in case that you wonder I know there's no definite answer to these questions.
Fondue Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 Words don't mean much-- especially when someone refuses "commitment." It's more or less, "I reserve the right not to have a relationship with you, but still enjoy the spoils of the 'fun.'" So some people allow themselves to say these things, have sex with you, and not pursue the relationship any further. Honest. Cold-Hard. Truth.
EasyHeart Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 This is just a hunch, but I'm guessing there is a story behind all of these general questions. . . .
Author Elisa89 Posted May 21, 2011 Author Posted May 21, 2011 This is just a hunch, but I'm guessing there is a story behind all of these general questions. . . . Of course there is a story to these questions. There's a guy who's pulling all these things on me and, yes, it keeps me hanging on. I firmly believe that he actually means it just the way he says it. He just got out of a long-time relationship and still has some issues to resolve. My gut feeling says he is honest about his feelings. Yet I know the general opinion on this topic is rather negative. Now I'm trying to get some perspective on the situation to figure out whether to trust my gut feeling or realize that I might just want to believe he's different.
heartshaped Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 "I'm in love with you, but I'm not ready right now"? Translation: I adore you, but I don't want to be committed to you. Solution: Leave the person alone and go about your life. Reality: Continue on and get heartbroken. I've seen this many times.
NicoleM Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 Words don't mean much-- especially when someone refuses "commitment." It's more or less, "I reserve the right not to have a relationship with you, but still enjoy the spoils of the 'fun.'" So some people allow themselves to say these things, have sex with you, and not pursue the relationship any further. Honest. Cold-Hard. Truth. So,so true. I found that one out the hard way:rolleyes:
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