Confusedalways Posted May 21, 2011 Share Posted May 21, 2011 So, all my life I have not been someone who cries - at least definitely not in front of others. In fact, prior to what I'm just about to describe the last time I had cried was at a friends funeral- in 2006. Last July I started seeing this guy- my now boyfriend. It took about 3 or 4 months and a health scare that my mother had (as in: a legitimate reason to cry) before I cried, and it was in front of him. Since that day in November, I've become the girl I never thought I would be. I cry at least twice a week now. Mostly over ridiculous things. I'm not trying to make a power play- or make anyone feel guilty. I just can't help myself and my emotions over take me and I just cry. I'm talking really, really stupid things. Things I would scoff at other girls crying over in the past. I'm actually embarrassed or I would give examples. Has this even happened to anyone? Does anyone have any theories? I almost feel like it's pent up or something over the years . Link to post Share on other sites
girlygirl100 Posted May 21, 2011 Share Posted May 21, 2011 I've dating my boyfriend for 9 months and been on birth control for about 7 and find myself a hormonal, emotional mess at times. Are you taking any new meds? Link to post Share on other sites
Sabali Posted May 21, 2011 Share Posted May 21, 2011 I've dating my boyfriend for 9 months and been on birth control for about 7 and find myself a hormonal, emotional mess at times. Are you taking any new meds? Excellent question. Another question is have you noticed anything else unusual about yourself during this time period? Do you also laugh at stuff inappropriately? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedalways Posted May 21, 2011 Author Share Posted May 21, 2011 No new meds. No other weird laughing. I guess my stress level is up, but I don't cry in front of anyone else but him still. Link to post Share on other sites
ladyinlimbo Posted May 21, 2011 Share Posted May 21, 2011 No new meds. No other weird laughing. I guess my stress level is up, but I don't cry in front of anyone else but him still. How does he react when you cry? Does he freak out or comfort you? Could be that you feel so at ease with him, and vulnerable, that you're just able to really 'release' things that you wouldn't be able to with others. Can you give us some examples of things you've cried over? Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted May 21, 2011 Share Posted May 21, 2011 This is going to sound weird, but have you done anything that affects your hormones recently? Taken BC, stopped BC, changed BC, etc? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedalways Posted May 21, 2011 Author Share Posted May 21, 2011 How does he react when you cry? Does he freak out or comfort you? Could be that you feel so at ease with him, and vulnerable, that you're just able to really 'release' things that you wouldn't be able to with others. Can you give us some examples of things you've cried over? He comforts me, always. I was thinking maybe I am just so at ease with him that I perhaps subconsciously like being able to cry and just get comforted- he's always sweet about it. I guess I'll give an example. Last night we were laying around and our friends called us to meet us out at the bar. They wanted to meet us at 11pm. It was about 10:15 which meant I'd have a half hour to get ready- I quickly showered. When I got out of the shower I dried my hair but it was so humid that my hair looked TERRIBLE and I cried. It really did look bad but certainly not worth crying over . Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedalways Posted May 21, 2011 Author Share Posted May 21, 2011 This is going to sound weird, but have you done anything that affects your hormones recently? Taken BC, stopped BC, changed BC, etc? Nope. [character limit] Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted May 22, 2011 Share Posted May 22, 2011 (trying a different angle: ) Has your history (particularly romantic) been that of somebody who was fairly 'guarded' and your path littered with situations where you couldn't relate and perhaps couldn't connect as deeply as were your friends and neighbors within the bounds of their relationships?? Well what if the symptoms of today are really the positive signs of your finding a way to expose more of your vulnerability to someone who has finally pierced your point of resistance? Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted May 22, 2011 Share Posted May 22, 2011 I think he's probably just been able to tap into that side of you, and you're comfortable enough to let your guard down, so the flood gates have opened. It's a good thing, I think! And eventually, the flood will lessen up... Link to post Share on other sites
Arikel Posted May 22, 2011 Share Posted May 22, 2011 Well.. Are you using protection? Link to post Share on other sites
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