iaudio Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 I have dated a bunch of women since my break about just short of 3 years ago. (2.5 year relationship) Most... just didn't work out for one reason or another, either we weren't compatible or I wasn't interested past a date or two. Some lasted a few weeks, others on and off for a few months. This girl, got out of a relationship back in December after being in one for about a year. (Longest relationship for her) Back in February a friend of mine wanted me to meet a friend of hers. It took a couple weeks, but we were able to exchange phone numbers. (Mid/Late-March) I call her, we hit it off right away. I am going into work, so I have a few minutes to chat. She seems like a good person, friendly, gets my humor etc. I make plans for something real simple, a hike at the park that weekend. Real low key, see where it goes. Hike comes around... we start around 12, and go for 3 hours. Ice cream was gotten too. We had a really good time. Couple days later, (we talk, but not every day) I make plans to go to the beach. She agrees to come along. We went from 12:30pm until about 8 that evening... once again, a lot of fun. She asks questions about me (real questions, not just fluff ones to pass the time), and I of her. Our morals match to a very large extent (one of the closest people I have made a match with for morals). We talk during the week afterwards. We make plans for another outing. A range trip (never shot a firearm before) Chinese buffet, then a movie. Once again... 4pm until about 12am we're on another date, having fun. We talk again after that date... I invite her to a friend's place that weekend for an 'appetizer cook off'. She is game. We go (5pmish) until about 1am. She has fun... I have fun... someone asked her if we were b/f and g/f, she said no.. we're just dating. That Monday, I am at work.. she texts me before her shift. "Just about to start my shift, just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you!" Week after that.... we go out to a restaurant (supposed to go golfing, but the weather wasn't nice), as well as a movie. Another 8 hours or so together. Week after that... we go to a baseball game (with a quick bite to eat before then) This is where it kind of.. falls apart. Kind of. I kind of push a little bit to make this somewhat exclusive. I had mentioned before that I wouldn't want to see anybody (about 2 weeks before this happened), as we're getting a long well. She kissed me and said she respected that and thank you... but, she herself never said she wouldn't. I mentioned in conversation the Monday after the game that down the line (months ahead).. we should go away for the weekend. She said she wasn't sure that is a good idea.. and "over nights aren't her thing". We still talked, but I kind of got a little bit weird-ed out by that. Then Wednesday, I asked her what was going on. She said she wasn't sure if she was ready for anything serious yet, and perhaps I was. I guess exclusivity is too serious for her? I said maybe we need some time apart then... she said maybe. I texted her that night, and said I would like to still hang out however every once in awhile. She said she would like that. She was graduating the following Tuesday, and before all this happened I told her I would attend as none of her friends / family (other than Parents) were going to be going. She said she would like that as well, and she would see me then. That Saturday, she was at a friend's place and she texted me how I was doing... we chatted for a short bit, and I told her I had to get going for work. (I do shift work) On Tuesday, I went to her graduation. She invites me out to lunch with her folks. (She drove with me to the place, instead of with her parents that she went with) Lunch lasts about 2 hours.. we chat, joke have fun etc. As we are leaving, she told me that she wanted to give me a hug... which she did. She sends me a text last night (after I went to bed), thanking me for going to her graduation and then out to lunch. We talk briefly the next day, as an extension of that conversation. On Thursday, I left a message on her Fbook status about something (verse from the bible). I posted one back, which she was intrigued by it.. and told me to explain it to her sometime.. I just explained it to her via the status update. Physically... we went past 1st base, almost to second. Emotionally... she told me stuff that was extremely personal. She felt extremely comfortable talking to me about pretty much anything. I think a screwed up, to a point. Maybe a little bit of miscommunication. I dunno. Thoughts?
Author iaudio Posted May 21, 2011 Author Posted May 21, 2011 she's not interested. let it go. That is a quick reply.. did you even read it? I don't know of too many girls who aren't "interested", yet not devote all that time and physical alone time for... no interest.
thatone Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 read it all twice. if she's pushing you away after 4 weeks and refuses to not date other people, she's keeping you around as a temporary shoulder to lean on until what she really wants shows up. sorry, but that's how it is.
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