captured_butterfly Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 Soooooo mad and upset at the ex right now!! Im trying to move on with my life and have been maintaining NC but he just cant help himself and keeps trying to ring me and email me :-( Infuriates me because all i wanted from him was love and respect and got nothing, i dont need money or expensive treats or nothing just love and respect :-( Kills me cos we could have had a wonderful life together but HE decided he didnt want it, i packed my stuff up and was still asking him to come home and talk before i left but he wouldnt!! :-( How many more times does he think i'll go back only for a few months down the line have him ask me to leave again, NO MORE!! Luckily the day he tried to ring me i'd just been to see my counsellor so i was mentally stronger and rejected the call, felt really bad about doing this as i dont like to think of him upset and alone but i know im doing the right thing my instincts are telling me this is the right thing :-( Then a WEEK after that call that i rejected he emails and says 'Hey how you doing sorry for ringing just gets me down thinking about things :-(' Another pointless email dont ya think?? No 'im sorry' 'i miss u' 'i love u' 'i cant be without u' why is he doing this???? Is this a control thing to keep an eye on me or to make sure he's in my thoughts??? :-S What you rekon guys??? Sorry i know this has turned into a rant but grrrrrr very infurating :-(
Kilty Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 I had a wee look at your previous posts CB. It is clear that this guy still has feelings for you and you are the same with him. Its only natural after the time you spent together. He misses you and you miss him. Thats why he is keeping up the contact. It seems that your relationship was a bit unhealthy and im not sure if you are compatible. He seems to have some CI and is unprepared to talk about important things. We all like to think that our partners can change and things will be different but your break ups and reconcilations seem to run the same cycle. Whether its what you want or not you could tell him that you cant see anyway back because you are not prepared to go down that same road again and no contact is the best way forward for you both. Alternatively you could have a meet up and talk about things and see what he has to say. However i did note that you said he cheated on you and in my opinion that is a deal breaker - do not ever blame yourself for that act. I always find it sad when two people love each other that they dont get another chance - after all we all make mistakes But it seems as if you have given this relationship enough chances and its time to call it quits.
Sugarkane Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 I have an ex that likes doing this aswell. Even though he's the dumper and its been over 6 months NC. Mine said the same stuff: I miss you, I can't wait to see you, I promise I'll meet up with you, from now on "everything wull be different". A month later he still hadn't even bothered to meet up with me. Kept breaking plans. Nothing had changed in over 6 months. I told him that it wasn't good enough. NC, NC NC
Sugarkane Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 My ex wanted to be single. Now he "doesn't know what he wants". Well now he made his bed and he can lie in it, so to speak.
Author captured_butterfly Posted May 22, 2011 Author Posted May 22, 2011 Thanx for the replies guys :-) Kilty - I do still love him very much but im pretty much certain now that i dont want him back :-( I want to get on with my life and find someone who will really love me for me and not keep breaking up with me. I think ive found some self respect and know that i deserve better than he was giving me. I have been NC and like i sed i rejected his call and havent replied to his email. I think that its all we've ever known and are scared of being on our own rather than seeing whats out there so we always go back to each other hoping things will be different, which they never are :-( Im ready to move on now, i want to find a nice guy that will treat me right and that i dont have to worry if hes gonna cheat on me or not and im pretty excited about my future again :-) Sugarkane - I know exactly how you feel, why do they do this to us???? They didnt want us and let us go, im pretty sure thats not how u treat someone you love!! Im certain that i wouldnt do this to someone i love!! Its sooo infuriating!!!! And the hard thing is that i know that if i did go back it would happen again like i knew it would the last 8 times :-( Not good!! We dont deserve that kind of life anymore!!!
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