frenchgirl Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 A few years ago I dated this guy and dumped him. I don't know what I was thinking, he was great but I just didn't "feel" it. I saw him again a couple of months ago and he was so hot! We exchanged phone numbers and ended up talking on a number of occasions. I was a little disappointed today to find out that he'll be going on a trip with a female friend this summer. He insists she's not his girlfriend but he will nonetheless spend a full week on the road alone with her. Should I express my interest now, before he goes on the trip and possibly develops feelings for her? Or should I wait as he's probably too much into her at this point?
sanskrit Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 What has changed in your life or his in terms of perspective and attitude that will keep you from not feeling it again after the novelty of reunion has worn off? If nothing has changed, best not to start up, as you will likely end up in the same place as before. We often downplay things we didn't like about people over time and overemphasize the good. If you feel there is significant change, would just wait for him to get back from his trip. It's easy to worry about "what if they fall in love" type scenarios, but if they have been friends awhile and not ever gone there, this trip won't likely change that. Have you two made plans to get together? If not, since you were the dumper, asking him out on a simple date would be a good start before worrying about staking a claim.
thehead Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 How did you get he may be "too much into her"? He said she's not his girlfriend. Show your interest now. I have traveled with platonic girl friends before to weddings out of state and to Carnival in Rio. Nothing sexual happened. It is possible.
musemaj11 Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 I wouldnt want a girl who dumped me and want me years later.
suggasweett Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 I wouldnt want a girl who dumped me and want me years later. That is true... but if you are really "feeling" him then let him know... you only live ONCE.. if he is not with it then you move on life is short..
Author frenchgirl Posted May 21, 2011 Author Posted May 21, 2011 I know he has been having sex with her. He keeps telling me they are not an item but they spend a lot of time together. When I tried to corner him, he said he really liked her and respected her, and that he thought of her as his muse. That's why I kind of hesitate to make a fool of myself and get in the way of his trip.
Jazzari Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 A few years ago I dated this guy and dumped him. I don't know what I was thinking, he was great but I just didn't "feel" it. I saw him again a couple of months ago and he was so hot! We exchanged phone numbers and ended up talking on a number of occasions. I was a little disappointed today to find out that he'll be going on a trip with a female friend this summer. He insists she's not his girlfriend but he will nonetheless spend a full week on the road alone with her. Should I express my interest now, before he goes on the trip and possibly develops feelings for her? Or should I wait as he's probably too much into her at this point? It doesn't sound like you're really all that much into him now. Thinking he's "so hot" isn't enough. He's the same guy inside that you "dumped" a few years ago. And you're only a "little" disappointed that he's going to be with someone else. I think you should wait until he gets back and be sure of your feelings before you interfere with his current relationship.
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