effee Posted April 13, 2004 Posted April 13, 2004 i saw them, both holding hands, at first i couldnt believe what i was seeing, my gf, my love holding hands with another guy, and then i realized that it was true, she was cheating on me. i did what any guy would do, i confronted them, i still remember clearly what happened, how she looked like when she was holding him, what she said. i told her " you've been lying to me, you've been lying to him" she didnt reply at first.. and then after i continued talking to her, ( she was dragging away her current bf at that time, i duno why, maybe she didnt want himt o speak to me) she looked me straight in the eye, and i could see that she really meant it, she told me, "ben, shut up and f off" right then and there, my heart broke.. imagine someone that you loved with all your heart and your soul, telling you this. well after a day of no contact, she finally smsed me, she explained, that she and her bf got back together while i was still with her, but she couldnt bring herself to tell me the truth.. she said her bf just asked to get engaged to her, he doesnt want to lose her to another guy anymore after finding out about me, since when they're engaged she cant fool around. right now i cant stop thinking about it, engaged..engaged, what the hell, and its my fault, i lost her and another guy benefited from my mistake..she said she was still thinking about e engagement, but she knows and I know that she will say yes. i just cant think straight right now, her words keep echoing over and over again in my head. i know i can never get her back, but part of me keeps hoping she will leave her finance and come back to me. i dont know why im posting here, i never really thought much about ppl who did this sort of thing, but now i feel what its like to be so alone and to turn to faceless people on the internet. should i put her in a special place in my heart and move on? i know i will never forget her, i could see myself with her for the next 40 years, and now its over, and she's engaged to someone else.. just need some words of advice..thoughts, anything to have abit of comfort..
Qicah Posted April 13, 2004 Posted April 13, 2004 MOve on! Just let her go. It hurts more if you'll still cling to a relationship with someone who wants to be with someone else. It's quiet clear that your gf has chosen her ex over you. Hope you'll get on with your life...
spencer Posted April 14, 2004 Posted April 14, 2004 OUCH what a royal Bitch. she totally dissed you, gave you the good side than stomped out your heart with high heel shoes. Anyone who would say to you what she did, does not deserve to be missed or loved by you. when you get over the shock, and the anger sets in you'll agree. you have been misled by her intentions, she lied, cheated, and yelled obscenities. you can do much better. and when you realize that she is not the person you thought, you wont be as heartbroken. but for now take care of yourself, keep busy. im sorry someone of my gender behaved this badly, and hurt you.
Girlie Posted April 14, 2004 Posted April 14, 2004 Do not blame yourself for this. Regardless of what you did or didn't do, this likely would have happened. And it's better it happened now, though I'm sure it doesn't feel that way, than after a walk down the aisle or something. Let this guy deal with her lying. Let yourself heal and then move onto greener pastures.
Dixiecron Posted April 14, 2004 Posted April 14, 2004 effee, That guy is just deluding himself. We'll probably be seeing him on this board when he finds out his fiancee has been running around with someone else. He is a damn fool for proposing to a woman that was dating someone else, and she sure as hell doesn't deserve a special place in your heart, other than as a warning sign of what to look out for in the future. What if she only went out with you to try to make him jealous and propose to her? Would you want to spend 40 years with a woman like that? I know what I say may not sink in for a while yet (as in months down the road) but you are damn lucky that she's engaged to that guy and not you. You're hurting too much right now to realize you just had a big fat bullet whiz right by your head instead of hitting you. Cut all contact immediately so you can start to heal up. Read up on no contact and make that your new religion. Don't worry about her, payback is a bitch. The best part is all you have to do is get yourself together, and let the universe sort her pathetic ass out.
Kimber Posted April 14, 2004 Posted April 14, 2004 Wow, Why would you want to be with someone like that, no matter what in the end you will always wonder why. I would move on, I know the kind of love that you are talking about. If you ever get back together with this girl you will not trust her at all, always wonder if it is happening again. If you move on then you can start fresh with a new relationship and a new friend. One that does not say true intensions are not worth your time no matter what you feel. It will all pass. It did for me after being with someone for 14 years and 2 kids later, the way that it began is the way that it ended, always went back to the ex's and in the end he did the same thing, now none of us talk and i have to have a long distance relationship with my kids all on our own just because i would not see the truth from the start. Start over your worth it Kimber, good luck
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