TomB Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 To put a long story short, I've been made to realise that I need to figure out how to talk to people, I was in a perfect situation, one that I have been waiting for. I wanted to talk to someone who came up, sat next to me and gave me the distinct impression that she wanted to talk to me too, trouble is, she seemed to be just as shy as me, it was kinda cute but in the end, got us nowhere. Now I realise that being male, I'm pretty much expected to initiate things like this, eg. talking, but when I need to, Im stumped, clueless, even scared. Where on earth do I begin? How do I pluck the confidence that I know is buried deep within me? And finally, whats a guy gotta say to get a conversation flowing between two strangers in such a dull, boring location, waiting for a bus (without using forced, boring, cliché one liners) Thanks for reading and thanks even more for replying.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Pick her up and put her down on your lap. Let that be your topic starter. She isn't a cat.
Ross MwcFan Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 I think it'd look a bit strange to try starting a conversation with a complete stranger while you're waiting for a bus, unless you were both really old people. At least that's how it seems to be over here in the UK anyway.
betterdeal Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Just say something. Anything. You'll make mistakes, but you'll develop confidence by knowing you did something you haven't done before.
betterdeal Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 In fact, you don't have to say anything, you have to show an interest, make a connection. A smile, eye contact, a hello, a nod, something, just anything. Take a breath, then connect.
Author TomB Posted May 21, 2011 Author Posted May 21, 2011 Thanks for the input so far, it all sounds so easy but when situations like this appear Im stuck, guess I should man up
Obie Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Yeah, I can definitly relate. I'm only just starting to get over this problem myself. 95% of it comes from your own self confidence (the other 5% is money ). A guy with high self esteem can seriously make a conversation about the lint on the floor interesting for a girl. I would start going to the gym and get puffy, that's what helped me a lot. After that it's just a matter of bashing your head against the wall until you learn where the soft spots are, if you catch my drift. I don't think there's a real answer for your question for that specific situation. Every situation is different, but if you're feeling confident about yourself you can make it work. You just have to trust yourself and the girl will see that confidence and be impressed by it. Personally I rarely pre-thought stuff that I wanted to say to my girlfriend when I first met her, and I just started talking to her and said the first thing that came to my mind.
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