jake1995 Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 i honestly love this girl with all my heart and i really dont know what im going to do right now. we dated almost 2 years and her parents decided we should stop seeing each other so of course we kept talking. but we couldnt see each other and it started to get to her more than me. we started fighting more and we just stopped talking. i hit her up a about a week later and she said she hated me and was done with me but i think its because she was infront of her parents.. we've been kinda talking since then but she says shes moved on. her friends are saying she wants me back but shes too stubborn to admit it. her best friend however hates me and tells her while we date that im a piece of ****. i convinced her parents to let us be together or atleast see each other. she told me last week if we cant be together then she understands us seeing other people but she wants me in the end. shes not jsut a girl im in love with shes my best friend and i cant take the thought of losing her. what should i do???
Lilmisus Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 First. How old are you? If you both are still young enough to have her parents control her life to that extent, then I'll go ahead and assume that you both are still in high school and are teenagers. So you know, teenage heartbreaks are some of the most painful ones there seem to be, especially when it's their first love. Second. What was their reasoning for making her not see you anymore? Break curfew too many times? Did they feel you were too young, or that you were rushing things? Did they think that you were bad news, or that she could do better? Did they find out something about you? Why do you think she felt inclined to say that she hated you in front of them, and why does her best friend hate you? The reason that I ask, is because it seems like the most influential people on her decisions don't seem to be too fond of you, and it's important to know and understand why. Because, if you screw up even a little bit, her parents or her best friend are going to jump down your throat and tell her "you're too good for him, let him go!" With that type of support system, it will be hard to win her back or be with her in the long run, no matter how strong your feelings towards one another may be. Now. I can't tell you what to do to try to win her back when I don't even know the full story yet. It seems like there are many pieces missing, and until you fill us in on what those pieces are, then the advice me or anyone else may give may not be exactly what you need to hear.
usabup Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Alright mate! I think the best thing you can do in this situation is not to call her, text her, e-mail her or anything. I bet she comes running back to you in a couple of weeks if you can do this!
LostInTurn Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 First. How old are you? If you both are still young enough to have her parents control her life to that extent, then I'll go ahead and assume that you both are still in high school and are teenagers. So you know, teenage heartbreaks are some of the most painful ones there seem to be, especially when it's their first love. Second. What was their reasoning for making her not see you anymore? Break curfew too many times? Did they feel you were too young, or that you were rushing things? Did they think that you were bad news, or that she could do better? Did they find out something about you? Why do you think she felt inclined to say that she hated you in front of them, and why does her best friend hate you? The reason that I ask, is because it seems like the most influential people on her decisions don't seem to be too fond of you, and it's important to know and understand why. Because, if you screw up even a little bit, her parents or her best friend are going to jump down your throat and tell her "you're too good for him, let him go!" With that type of support system, it will be hard to win her back or be with her in the long run, no matter how strong your feelings towards one another may be. Now. I can't tell you what to do to try to win her back when I don't even know the full story yet. It seems like there are many pieces missing, and until you fill us in on what those pieces are, then the advice me or anyone else may give may not be exactly what you need to hear. I'd be interested to hear the answers to these questions as well. It would allow us to better help you.
Author jake1995 Posted May 20, 2011 Author Posted May 20, 2011 16 and shes 15. we do fight somewhat often but it has to do with our friends more than anything. which is mainly why her parents are tired of it which i respect because i would probably do the same. her friend hates me because shes the exact opposite and all she ever pays attention to is the bad things in my ex's life. she is the type that thinks everyone is wrong and shes always right. she never looks at how happy we were for awhile. she actually influenced her to change how she acts towards me she went from being sweet to a bitch who cant stand me all of a sudden. im not playing a blame game i can be an ******* everyone knows that but i never want to see this girl hurt. if shes hurtin im 8450238945 times worse if i caused it. shes very attractive and the day we break up every guy wanted her. not saying im ugly and shes the best i can get but shes my bestfriend as well as my gf and idw her hurt even if shes not with me. i love her to death but lately all she wants to do is argue its never like she can sit and talk with me. idk honestly at this point what to do.
Author jake1995 Posted May 20, 2011 Author Posted May 20, 2011 also her mother loves me her dad never really opened up though. like if we have a family dinner shes there they do im there. our families get each other presents on the holidays like we get along. my mother has some issues and always talks bad about this girl and her mother really has a problem with her though. but me and her mom can talk and joke around and whatever like even if my ex isnt around we're close.
Author jake1995 Posted May 20, 2011 Author Posted May 20, 2011 another thing i didnt wanna mention. she already likes someone.. i really dont know what to say to that. im the type to swing first and ask questions later. I TOLD HIM I TRUST YOU BRO JUST DONT HURT HER. i can let her go in a relationship way i just want her as a friend better in my life as that than gone forever.
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