arbrne_vet Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 It is time to move on. time to go wheels up, and on..... it has been the worst 6 months engagement of my life. she withdrew emotionally and physically. came up with all kinds of excuses for all her actions. i had enough, and ended it. then... things really changed. she lost it, and all of a sudden, wanted intimacy with me. funny thing is, when we were finished, and laying together, the conversation turned to all the crap i did. nothing was her fault, just mine. no need for details. just everything was always my fault. all the "other girlfriend" comments from her, all the other "you can screw her if we break up" comments. yet SHE never did anything wrong. no, i never had another girlfriend, just comments she made all the time. her insecurity killed this relationship, yet everything is my fault. found out that she has been going through everything in my house. through my checkbook, through my safe. i even found a video she had taken from my house from my previous marriage. i did not even know i had it. well, i am moving on. time to let go of what i thought i had, and look at what i did have. look at the person she became, not the person i thought she was. i will no longer answer texts, nor phone calls. i have not heard from her in 3 days, but i am sure that will change. a sad end to a sad love story......
ilovedhim Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Did you ever ask her what's making her feel insecure?
CFM Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Sorry to hear about your situation man. Fellow airborne vet here.. oh the ****ty years at Bragg. Anyway, I have been on the receiving end of an extremely insecure girl after a long relationship. She violated my privacy on so many levels.. hell, recently found out that for over a year ALL of my emails were being forwarded to her without me having a clue. She tore apart all of my social networking accounts, would talk to girl friends and act like me to see what they'd say.. it all became such a massive turn off and infected our entire relationship. I personally think it was because of deep rooted "daddy issues", but who knows.. maybe some women are just this way? Best of luck moving on.
Author arbrne_vet Posted May 20, 2011 Author Posted May 20, 2011 she never wanted to talk about. only told me i had to fix it. her ex husband left her. litterly left her. did not come home one day. she said she never saw it coming, then found out he was having an affair for 4 years. of course, i only hear her side. after what i have been through with her, i understand why he left. things were getting so stupid ridiculous. i had to do what she said, and if i did not, then she would get pissed and say that was part of the problem, i did not listen to her. we did not live together, yet she felt she could dictate how i was supposed to live my life. how to load my dishwaser, what cat litter to buy, where to buy groceries. i think......... she knew how much i loved her and took everthing that has ever happened to her, out on me, because i STAYED and took it. i look back and see what a FOOL i have been. i gave that woman the world, and she trampled all over me. yet...... everything was my fault.
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