Kilty Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Ive posted my story before - short recap. Fell out with girlfriend after a 2 year relationship - Felt there wasnt much spark on her part and walked away without talking about stuff. Within a matter of days/weeks she had moved on to an older guy with more baggage than Joan Collins on Safari - has an ex wife and 3 grown up kids and had recently been engaged to a girl that was pregnant by someone else. He is old, bald, not good looking but clearly giving her what her desperation wants. Within 2 months they went on holiday, got engaged and are getting married this year. I tried my best to get her back, wrote a 10 page letter (before the holiday and engagement) bearing my soul but she asked me not to contact her again. So - i have been in strict NC since August last year apart from the occasional grimace at each other in passing at work - i work beside her and the fiance. Anyway today i drove into work and parked the car. There were loads of empty spaces to my left, to my right and directly across. I leaned over to pick up my packed lunch and on the way back up opened the door to get out - and noticed there was a car about to park right next to me - so i had to pull the door back - the noticed it was HER. She had to stop her attempt to park to let me out. I got out - drew a face but didnt look at her - and walked into work. She then proceeded to park right next to my car. So WTF is going on - if the roles were reversed id have parked elsewhere plus she would never have done this in the last few months. She knows it is my car and cannot not have noticed i was in it As i said i dont want to read too much into this but it got my day off to a stinker
usabup Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 I don't get what him being old, bald and unattactive has to do with it. Maybe they get on well and he treats her good?
Author Kilty Posted May 20, 2011 Author Posted May 20, 2011 I don't get what him being old, bald and unattactive has to do with it. Maybe they get on well and he treats her good? Clearly The point i was trying to make is that she rebounded onto this guy within a matter of days/weeks and without blowing my own trumpet is not a patch on me. I got on well with her too in the two years we were together and treated her good. But yes - leaving that aside i was only giving the background to the story. Im more interested in why after months of NC, awkwardness and staying out of each others way she would do this today - i mean the car park was half empty at that time in the morning. Anyway i was just venting !
Trovador Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Once my ex parked her car right behind me, bumper to bumper. As destiny wanted it, that day I had to run some urgent errand at lunch break (I never move the car the whole day), so I had to break NC to ask her please to move back her vehicle. We talked like nothing had happened and as a result, she drove me to the place I had to visit and end having lunch together. After that we had some nice days until the next, inevitable fight. She did it on purpose, that's clear. Maybe as a joke or prank or whatever and then forgot about it. She didn't know I had to use my car. But when she did it, she had to think about me and maybe unconsciously open a couple of inches the door to make contact. I am just telling an anecdote...
bonpaw2008 Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Everyone has second thoughts about decisions they make, and maybe this was her way of testing the waters to see if she could hook you again and get you to start thinking about her. But she made her choice, and you have moved on as well. If she does it again you can ask her wtf she is doing, but otherwise respect her wishes. You are doing great!
Gisele Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 She did it on purpose Kilty And id put money on her doing it because she wanted to get this reaction out of you: to make you think not so much about why she did it, but to get you thinking about HER in general There were plenty of other places for her to park. My guess is your NC approach and outward impression that you're fine has got her wanting your attention again, and thinking of 'casual' ways to get it And sir, i take my hat off to you. Just keep doing what you're doing, let her make her own mistakes with Mr Rebound!
Author Kilty Posted May 20, 2011 Author Posted May 20, 2011 Thanks everyone Slept for 4 hours tonight after work it obviously affected me that much. Just dont know what is going on in her head at all for her to do that and guess i'll never know - and probably dont want to. Thanks for allowing me to vent
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