utterer of lies Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 So in this case, have any ideas for me? in terms of a good bye msg in case he starts up again? i have a feeling he will start again tonight b/c he will be wasted for his brothers bachelor party tonight. need a good one that will not keep going and suck me in to defend myself. I'm not good at coming up with things like that... Have a nice life, and don't contact me again.
ladyinlimbo Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Well if he contacts you tonight by text as you suspect he will, I'd be inclined if I were you to just totally IGNORE his texts. Sometimes we send a much stronger message by saying nothing than by speaking (err, texting). What more is there to say, really? Besides, you know the odds are high that you'll just get sucked back into another p*$$ing match and then just feel worse for having done so. It's not worth it. Don't engage him. You don't owe him anything. It's not being rude to ignore a drunk texter, it's just sensible, particularly given the history here.
alethean Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Here's the coles notes version of the original post: - OP and some guy named Jake meet up and have sex - both of them go on dates with other people the same night - OP thinks Jake is an @sshole while she did nothing wrong Except she didn't go on date with other dude, and he told others she was a stalker psycho after the whole fiasco. If I took a test based on your cole's notes, I'd probably fail.
ladyinlimbo Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Except she didn't go on date with other dude, and he told others she was a stalker psycho after the whole fiasco. If I took a test based on your cole's notes, I'd probably fail. Ahhh, yes, very pertinent details that must definitely be considered and further support that he's a horse's patoot.
iJester Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Ignoring someone is civil. Why can't you just do that? No need to be friends.
dispatch3d Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Well that's an interesting version :-) I'm sure the OP will fill in some of the obvious blanks but I think you're missing a few key details: -OP and some guy named Jake date less than a handful of times, have sex early on (date #1 or 2?) -they have some kind of squabble (I can't recall what); I believe a text battle ensues and 'things' are considered "over." -as things are considered "over", the OP accepts a date with someone else (why wouldn't she? she's free to do so. And to note: the guy she accepts a date with is not any kind of mutual acquaintance or someone that Jake would know) -communication is reestablished, they both decide to forgive and forget and they're back on. On this same evening that they 'reunite', OP tells Jake that she DID have a date that night but had cancelled it (I'll admit, TMI, she didn't have to tell him that, after dating a couple of times she did not owe him this kind of explanation) -they have sex, all is considered to be good and worked out..........yet Jake decides to hit on/ask out the friend of OP's best friend. Clearly he was looking for word of this to get back to the OP (as naturally it would), to obviously "stick it to her" for daring to accept a date with someone during a time when it was believed "they" were merely friends and therefore not exclusive or in any kind of dating/relationship. -Jake is the brother of the OP's best friend's fiance and it was the bride's maid of honor he was trying to get with. You're welcome. hahahaha sweet *popcorn* what happens next? Do you think there's potential to make this into a movie or anything? As far as serious answers on how to avoid his text messages, shut your phone off for a day. Haha I still think the three line version (ie. the real world) is more helpful than the 18 line retarded drama version - but that's just me.
Author orion1010 Posted May 20, 2011 Author Posted May 20, 2011 hahahaha sweet *popcorn* what happens next? Do you think there's potential to make this into a movie or anything? As far as serious answers on how to avoid his text messages, shut your phone off for a day. Haha I still think the three line version (ie. the real world) is more helpful than the 18 line retarded drama version - but that's just me. well.. stayed tuned then!
heartshaped Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 I'm just going to cut through all the crap here. It's obvious that this guy likes you and you like him. It's also obvious that you are both being idiots and letting other people interfere in what goes on between the two of you and both of you are being jealous because the other person went on a date or was going to go on a date with someone else. I think the both of you are a little insecure and not willing to trust the other, but it's obvious that you like each other so here's what you should do- apologize, ask him if he wants to be exclusive, and stop letting other people influence your decisions! Not exactly in that order.
Author orion1010 Posted May 20, 2011 Author Posted May 20, 2011 I'm just going to cut through all the crap here. It's obvious that this guy likes you and you like him. It's also obvious that you are both being idiots and letting other people interfere in what goes on between the two of you and both of you are being jealous because the other person went on a date or was going to go on a date with someone else. I think the both of you are a little insecure and not willing to trust the other, but it's obvious that you like each other so here's what you should do- apologize, ask him if he wants to be exclusive, and stop letting other people influence your decisions! Not exactly in that order. dont you think things are beyond repair at this point?
ladyinlimbo Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 dont you think things are beyond repair at this point? They are, on many counts, IMO....but the biggest point to consider is that he was badmouthing you, calling you a 'stalker' and trying to make you look really bad. That's unforgettable, IMO.
Author orion1010 Posted May 20, 2011 Author Posted May 20, 2011 They are, on many counts, IMO....but the biggest point to consider is that he was badmouthing you, calling you a 'stalker' and trying to make you look really bad. That's unforgettable, IMO. That's what i was thinking. what will be be like in 3 months if he's like that after 4 dates??
cerridwen Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 That's what i was thinking. what will be be like in 3 months if he's like that after 4 dates?? Exactly. Do you really want to be that couple who's always creating drama at get-togethers? The couple who breaks and makes up three times a month? It's not good for you psychologically or physically.
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