cj24 Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 I broke up with my gf almost 3 months ago. The reason I broke up with her is because she had stopped taking her birth control and didn't tell me about it. I asked several times why she wasn't taking it and her only reply was "I don't know." Since she is about to start law school in the fall I asked her what would happen if she got pregnant and on two seperate occasions she said "I would still go to law school". Since she never would give me an answer why she was doing it, I broke it off before either of dreams were tossed out the window. A few weeks after we broke up she said it was for the best. After a month she was texting me asking if she could come over, which we ended up sleeping together. This lasted for about two weeks. During the two weeks she was real lovey dovey towards me and I just let her do her thing. One day she came over and we had sex and I told her it was probably stupid for us to do this. She asked if she could come over that same night but she never showed. The next night she started staying the night at another guys house. As soon as I found out I put a stop to her coming over to my place. For the next month she continued to stay with the other guy. Two weeks ago she was texting me and telling me that she still loved me and so on but she still stayed at the other guys house. The guy moved out of town last week. Last saturday night she came into the bar where I work and got a little drunk. She wanted to come up and kiss me but her friend put a stop to it before I even knew about it. I gave her a ride home and she begged me to stay the night with her. I asked her about the other guy and she said she just wanted somebody to want her. I made her tell that I'm not what she wanted but two minutes later she started to cry hysterically and said "I love you so much". I ended up leaving her on the bathroom floor crying. After I left she texted me saying "please don't leave me". I told her she could not go from staying with him and then me in less than 48 hours because that is not right. The next day she acted like it was no big deal and gave me an "oh sorry" reply. She can't tell me what she wants and it's driving me insane. I'm trying like crazy to move on but I'm really close to her family so it's hard not to do the no contact thing. Please give me an honest opinion! I know what my friends have said about it but I would rather have an unbiased opinion. By the way I'm 29 and she's 26 so we're not really young college students anymore.
PegNosePete Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 She sounds mentally and emotionally unstable. Steer clear and do NOT have kids with her!
Billie The Puppet Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Hey here is a topic I somewhat know about. By that I mean being close to the ex's family and NC with the ex. It is possible to do this although it is still a challenge. I've been doing this since Sept. I've gone out to dinner on a few occasions with her sister and father. I've worked with her mother and mothers boyfriend etc. I talk to them and wish them happy holidays we just have respect for each other. We generally just do not discuss my ex because I for one don't need to hear anything about her as she is no longer a priority. Sure they have let info slip which is the challenging part. I just tend to change the subject but make it as natural as I could. I did find out from them she was seeing someone new ( I didn't ask but they felt the need so I don't hold onto hope) they also told me when that RS ended and again just let it flow naturally. In fact the news of that I thought if have a different reaction to but it changed nothing and I stayed NC with the ex. You don't have to lose secondary relationships because you split with a significant other just don't be intrusive and you will do fine.
Fedor Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Sounds like she has no regard for her actions. You shouldnt take that kind of crap. Those oh sorry replies are unacceptable and shows that she probably doesnt give a crap about your feelings.
oldguy Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 WTH!? I usually don't say this but; RUN fast, run far, do it now and don't ever look back. I hope you used a condom the times the two of you where together after she left you and especially after she moved in with the other guy. Stopping the birth control and not telling you is considered by most to be a MAJOR betrayal and some scary crap.
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