iluvhaters Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 This girl constantly hits me up on IM and Facebook everyday, etc. *She asked me to hang out with her for drinks and a movie. *Seemed interested the whole time ...lots of laughing / flirting, and touching/nudging me. *After the movie, she asks what I'm doing for the rest of the evening (we got out of the movie at 2:30am), and says she's got a lot of energy, as if hinting towards us hanging out longer? As*we're walking she bumps into me and almost rubs up against me. *When I pull up to her house to drop her off, she appears really happy and keeps smiling at me saying how we should hang out again etc. *And I'm like yeah sure we should hang out more ...but she's still sitting there as if expecting a kiss. *So I lean in and for a second she gives me a confused look, then somewhat gives me the cheek I guess. *So I put a finger to her chin and give her a slight kiss on the side of the lips. * Perhaps my execution was off, but from the way she was acting towards me all evening (and considering her flirty behavior towards me online in the past) it appeared like she was hoping for some advance. *It seemed clear to me that she likes me. *But there was no responsiveness or feeling in her lips. *It's like she shied away and backed out, which was really surprising to me. *I mean she asked me out for drinks and a movie, was flirty/touchy, yet was so dry and unresponsive to my kiss. After that awkward kiss I tried to reconcile by expressing that "we should spend more time closer to each other,"'which was probably poor word choice yet again...still, she agreed with a smile as she'd been agreeing to almost anything else I'd said all night. Another issue I felt was that she was constantly asking me questions and would barely say much when I asked her stuff. *Other girls enjoy talking and I like listening, but with this girl it's like I'm having to carry the conversation and like as if she was interviewing me. What are your thoughts? *I am a bit rusty when it comes to dating, but I don't to waste time with someone who may be trying to play games with me.
thatdog Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 How well do you know her habits? Does she have a lot of male friends? I've met a few girls that pretty much have no boundaries when it comes to appropriate behavior around guys. I mean they just act EXACTLY how they feel. They won't pay attention to what kinds of signals they give off and will usually take offence if you try and push the issue and say she was leading you on. These girls will ask you out because they want to hang out with a friend, they will be nice to you because they like you (as a friend) and they will be flabbergasted when you tell them that you interpreted all their actions as sexual interest. Such girls usually have a lot of male friends and just a short amount of time spent with them will make it obvious they are all chasing her and being led on by her actions (which she will continue to deny). I would guess this is most likely the case here. On the other hand she could just be insanely shy. I have seen girls spend ages hanging out with some guy they had a massive crush on but because of low self esteem they always considered the guy 'safe' because they were convinced he would never go for them and they could just admire from afar. When the guy does actually make a move they are so suprised they freak out and run away. could be either. But the latter case IME is much rarer and either way both kinds of girl are bad news (1st one cos she probably doesn;t like you and will certainly break your brain after a while and the 2nd cos she will have such bad self esteem issues you will have to constantly take care of her and prop her up emotionally). so yeah mate. Sorry, but I saw run for the hills...
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