ihavelotsofcoconuts Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Ok so here’s the deal. I was seeing this girl a couple of weeks back. Things started off good but immediately didn’t quite work out. I mean she was quite assertive in the stuff she demanded (i.e she got mad for my having some pics on my facebook with a girl friend with whom i was playing xbox and sitting on a fence...she said those pics were too intmate and demanded to take them off). Obviously i didn’t do them and we conflicted from the beginning of the relationship. She eventually dropped it but she told me that „she could forgive but not forget” Last weekend i went to visit my parents in my hometown and on the penultimate evening by battery went dead in the middle of a text conversation with her. The next day i recharged my phone and woke up with the message „why haven’t you replied? We need to talk” (i immediately knew what the „talking” was about but i didn’t really quite care...it was obvious we weren’t working out). When i got home we went for a drive and we pulled in a parking lot and we got to talking. She again started with the pics and the phone deal like „why didn’t you reply? I kept wainting and waiting...that was extremely rude. You were in your hometown...your ex is from your hometown. Did you see each other or what?” I tried to explain the battery deal but to no avail. So she said that it’s better we remained friends and leave it at that. I agreed completely because i did not want to be part of that relationship anymore...and she was pleased to hear that we were on the same page. We also agreed that things weren’t going to be weird between us. Now here’s the current situation. We’re supposed to be at this college party our friends are throwing so yesterday (2 days after breaking up) she contacted me again to make sure that things weren’t going to be weird. I immediately played it down and said that our „relationship” wasn’t anything more than a friendship and a few kisses (we had sex but it wasn’t good...we didn’t bond over it). She agreed but that wasn’t the issue. She said that she was seeing this guy, and he was from our college. At the moment I didn’t care and said that things are going to be super okey-dokey. But last night I started to get these ideas and thoughts like : „really? After only 2 days? WTF? Was i that easy to get over from? What does he have that i don’t (modesty aside, i’m actually better than him in every aspect so you see the paranoia :|)? Is she going to like him more? Are they going to have better sex? Is she going to say stuff about me? What’s your take on this?
Datura Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Maybe he gives into her demands. You sure are giving her a lot of power. You dodged a bullet. Focus your attention elsewhere.
Author ihavelotsofcoconuts Posted May 20, 2011 Author Posted May 20, 2011 i'm trying but even if i didn't care about the relationship it seems as if she cared even less
oaks Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 awaiting reply Sorry for slow reply. My battery went flat. See? Anyway, your nascent relationship sounded doomed from the start with her comments about Facebook pictures. Sounds like you just need to move on. Good luck finding someone more mature next time!
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