whoknowswhattodo Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 I finally did it. I let go, its the greatest feeling in the world. I meet a new girl and she is the oppsite of my ex. Which is a good thing. I lied to myself about my ex. She was mean, gold digger. The new girl and myself aren't officially together but we did have a long kiss after our date and were getting together again. I'm going to take things slow. Let me tell anyone new. NC is the only way to go!!! I never thought I could move on and its the greatest feeling. A million pound weight has been lifted off of me. Thank you to everyone who helped me through my rough time.
VJohnson32 Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 (edited) Meeting someone new doesn't mean you are over that person. It's only a temporary distraction, a finger in a leaky faucet. You were here 2 days ago looking for an advice and venting about the ex, how did you manage to get over her in 2 days? If I may quote you, "Is there any hope that we will get back together in the future. Everyones thoughts please". Edited May 20, 2011 by VJohnson32
SCG_Sasa1111 Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 The same thing happened with me. I finally found a girl on my facebook that I knew for a couple years that I wanted to get closer to; text, hang out with them you know the usual. We ended up chatting a lot and I realized i might be falling for her. Little did I know I was just trying to fill the void with any girl that I thought I wanted at this time. Really when you realize it after a while you sink even lower and this is what I had experienced. I realized I don't want this girl; or any girl at this point for that matter. Im just not in the mood for a relationship for god knows how long after my ex just left me for another guy after 4.5 years that last thing i need is someone to replace my emptyness. What im trying to say: you might think you are moving on but it could be a big false alarm. I just recently got out of a 4.5 year relationship (BACK IN NOVEMBER) and here I am trying to get with this new girl 2 months later? I realized filling in the void she left and it was not helping so I stopped. At this point I will just focus on living my life and healing with time and whatever happens now happens..I will not expect anything and I could care less at this point for a girlfriend; I am going to just live my life and see what awaits.
guitarxkid Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Same thing happened to me a few months ago. Sadly my ex got in the way of it and put me right back to where I was before. Like many are saying, you are most likely not over your ex but distracted from her. This is not a bad thing but a great thing! Nobody expects you to get over your ex in a couple days but a distraction like that can make you feel a lot better and divert your thoughts to someone new. I don't suggest getting into a relationship that soon after your breakup but hanging out with a new girl can be nice and like you mentioned can show you how unfitting your old girlfriend was for you
sun_moon Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Haha I'm so glad I opened this thread. Ok so distraction is good, using someone is bad. Remind yourself of where you are and find balance, if you have to wear a rubber band and snap it on your wrist when you get confused, to remind yourself what do I really know of this new person? Am I healed?
Author whoknowswhattodo Posted May 20, 2011 Author Posted May 20, 2011 I understand and know I will always carry feelings for my ex but the relief of knowing I don't need her because I see now what I didn't see in the past and the way she used me. This new girl I'm going to take things slow and see how they develop. If my ex comes back into the picture, even though I do love her and want the best for her, I can't be with her again. She was very possessive over me and was manipulative. The crazy thing is I could see when she was manipulating me but I would over look it, idk why and everything I did for her was never good enough. No matter what I did. I'm not saying the new girl is " The One " but I have been on several dates with her and there is a good connection between us. If my ex comes back, I will not take her back. She cheated on me with her ex and I can't forgive that. I wish her the best and I'm moving forward. I finally kissed the new girl last night, even though I could have on previous dates but I wasn't going to because I wasn't going to make her feel the way my ex made me feel. NC is what made me figure out what I had to do to make my life better. It was hard at first because I wasn't taking all the advise from everyone. I'm ready to move on and find " The One " and know my ex wasn't. My Father told me this and it helped me the most he said, " it's not about what happened in the past or what might happen in the future but you have to enjoy the ride. People are always going to come in and out of your life but its the ones that stay make it worth wild and let go of the ones that do because they really don't care about anyone but themselves and that will never change. Enjoy the ride and don't become like those selfish people." When he told me that it was like someone turning on a light in a dark room. So ultimately its finding the people that do care.
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