AmericanHoney Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 There is this guy at my work that was interested in me and asked my co-worker hey is Sarah single?? My co-worker said yes she is and he proceeded to gave her his number to give to me. So I text him say hey what's up and ask him if he would like to go to grab a drink sometime and he said no I am busy this weekend and blew me off. Huh?? He said he was interested in me and didn't have the courage to ask me out and instead asked my co-worker to give him his number and then I ask him out and he said no I am busy and doesn't offer another time. How old are we seriously?? Going to other people asking them about me and then when someone finally asks them out they turn them down that is just plain rude!
Star Gazer Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Did he actually tell your friend that he was interested in you? Or did he merely ask if you were single?
Darren Taylor Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Did he actually tell your friend that he was interested in you? Or did he merely ask if you were single? Big difference between the two and the latter probably applies here. I've asked people if someone they knew was single. Doesn't mean I'm interested in them.
Author AmericanHoney Posted May 20, 2011 Author Posted May 20, 2011 He asked if I was single and asked if my co-worker do you think she would go to dinner with me?? She said I am not sure you could ask her. He then proceeded to give her my number and I turned the tables and asked him and he acted like he wasn't interested anymore.
thatone Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 do that a dozen more times in the next month or two and you will have a full grasp of what it is to be a man .
lovingADove Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 How old is this young man? Seems like a kid to me. He gave her his number, so she could give it to you ... then he acts like a little boy? This is ridiculous. Did you check if he was really single?
musemaj11 Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 XLol this is hilarious. Please tell me you guys are 16. XD
Jazzari Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Some guys like to do the asking themselves. He may have been taken aback by your text and even annoyed that word of his interest got back to you.
whichwayisup Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Back off and let him chase you. If he doesn't call or text you in a week, then forget him completely. I think you asking him out was too forward.. You should have texted and just said, I heard you were looking for me. What's up? And let him take the lead.
musemaj11 Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 I say run while u still can. What kinda weirdo would give someone his number and say he is not interested? That's just mind boggling. He is loco.
ladyinlimbo Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Well it's possible that he's super shy and not much dating experience...which would explain why he had to use your friend as a go-between instead of just asking you out directly; then when you initiated contacted with him, maybe it totally caught him off guard and he just panicked. What ages are you both? Does he seem like the shy type?
musemaj11 Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Well it's possible that he's super shy and not much dating experience...which would explain why he had to use your friend as a go-between instead of just asking you out directly; then when you initiated contacted with him, maybe it totally caught him off guard and he just panicked. What ages are you both? Does he seem like the shy type? Yea but why would he give away his number if he didn't expect to hear a response? That's just dumb.
sugarmomma Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 You were definitely too forward. What possessed you to do that?? Patience is a virtue/
ladyinlimbo Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Yea but why would he give away his number if he didn't expect to hear a response? That's just dumb. Ahh, yes, good point. Maybe he's not SINGLE and he didn't want to risk getting 'busted' for her text so he gave the abrupt kind of response he did? Other than that, makes no sense a guy would go out of his way to pass on HIS phone # to the friend of a girl he gives the impression he's interested in........then take offense when she actually calls said number lol. Maybe he was asking about her for a friend of his? Oh I don't know. It's just really very strange on all levels. Last thought -- would he have know for SURE who it was that texted him? Did the OP clearly identify herself? Maybe he thought the text came from someone else; someone he's not interested in.....?
whichwayisup Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Maybe he's not SINGLE and he didn't want to risk getting 'busted' for her text so he gave the abrupt kind of response he did? Then why would he give his number to her friend and say he was interested if he had a girlfriend?
musemaj11 Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 A guy who doesn't like forward women wouldn't give out his number in the first place. This story sounds like a joke. Haha.
dispatch3d Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 It's a self defense mechanism. He's just scared you'll reject him later so he rejects you now.
Author AmericanHoney Posted May 26, 2011 Author Posted May 26, 2011 Little update.......... He asked me out ( didn't even contact him) and said hey wanna meet for drinks?? I said sure! He said okay what time and where and I tell him and get this..... A hour before we are supposed to go out he texts me and says sorry won't be able to make it tonight promise to make it up to you Tuesday. Tuesday rolls around and I text him saying hey are we still on?? He says ya shouldn't be a problem. I wait and wait and finally get another text back from him saying sorry won't be able to make it after all. I am done with him! He is so not worth my time anymore. He wants to go out but keeps bailing and is playing stupid games and I did that kind of stuff in High School I clearly do not need to be playing now. The next time he texts me and says want to go out? I am going to say you know what? I don't want to play games so why don't you find someone that does and stop bothering me that window of opportunity has shut and you lost all your chances see ya!
musemaj11 Posted May 26, 2011 Posted May 26, 2011 Little update.......... He asked me out ( didn't even contact him) and said hey wanna meet for drinks?? I said sure! He said okay what time and where and I tell him and get this..... A hour before we are supposed to go out he texts me and says sorry won't be able to make it tonight promise to make it up to you Tuesday. Tuesday rolls around and I text him saying hey are we still on?? He says ya shouldn't be a problem. I wait and wait and finally get another text back from him saying sorry won't be able to make it after all. I am done with him! He is so not worth my time anymore. He wants to go out but keeps bailing and is playing stupid games and I did that kind of stuff in High School I clearly do not need to be playing now. The next time he texts me and says want to go out? I am going to say you know what? I don't want to play games so why don't you find someone that does and stop bothering me that window of opportunity has shut and you lost all your chances see ya! Haha, told ya. This guy is a strange one.
Recommended Posts