bluenightowl Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 1. How do some men and women detach sex from love? and why? Is it: - your nature.. - your confidence.. - your attitude about SEX and LOVE... - your good looks.. knowing you can have SEX with many people.. - your bad looks.. knowing you better get what you can before he/she leaves - being @#!$^& over by someone you loved with all your heart..who left your life making you feel numb/sad/distant/revengeful - a mindset of .. this is fun for today.. right here now.. instant gratification. - a mindset of being free 2. For those that can.. Do think you have an advantage when you decide to seek a serious relationship.. you can better detach after sex.. bad sex.. or a clingy man/women... OR disadvantage..maybe its harder to settle down after so many crazy times and sex.. you want it all.. and its too fun to be free.. even with kids and a family.. I do think humans are a creature of habit.. Background: Sometimes I can detach, and most other times, I can't. When I meet someone whom I am crazy about.. I cannot detach very easily.. and why should I fight the feeling? of course I could get hurt.. and dumped.. and I have .. and I have dumped others when I wasn't sure or was sure and that feeling was gone.. but when those feelings rarely hit me.. it always because I feel terribly attracted physically and mentally (in a loving way) towards that person.. never detached. And from experience.. the sex only partners fade the fastest... even when it was exciting.. I feel something wasn't right with them or me.. ie we needed time to get back on our feet.. to seek something more real. OR ...are we all just friends in a way sharing love, sex and duties.. an arranged marriage of sorts... I'll provide the kids.. you be the man and protect me.. blah... ..and the most morale of us don't cheat.. and the rest lie to hide how we really feel inside.. and others have an open dialogue about it and swing and do crazy things. I see these times dominated by SEX in the media.. but to back up a bit.. I'm always inspired by great love stories which these days seem something from another era. I see this as the ultimate goal... but I think sex plays a role.. if I recall even Ghandi fooled around.. .just curious
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