Women don't want virgins and men are scared of sexually experienced women

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

For one, most of the women polled DEMANDED their men have prior sexual experience.

 

The orgasm is my birthright

The first question was common to both men and women: Would you like your partner to be sexually experienced?

Of the women polled, 69 per cent want their men with prior sexual experience, 23 per cent didn’t mind someone without experience and only 8 per cent insisted on their man being a virgin. For all the newfound sexual forthrightness of women, men are still supposed to take the lead when it comes to bedroom antics. Women, irrespective of their having prior experience or not, would rather have a man who is not a virgin. Why? “I am looking for a boyfriend/ husband and not a child who needs to know stories about bees and birds,” says one 25-year-old feisty woman. For another it does not matter if he has any experience “as long as he is attentive”. Someone who knows the moves and someone who is attentive: From holding on to their ‘virtue’ for the Right One, the focus for the girls seems to have shifted to ‘what’ the Right One does for them. In other words, the pressure is on the man to keep the woman happy.

 

 

 

The pressure’s showing on the men as well and it’s perhaps no surprise that the younger lot is ‘scared’ of demanding, sexually experienced women. If on one hand there is performance anxiety about being compared to past lovers, there is now the added pressure of even inexperienced women having high magazine-propagated expectations of a man’s bedroom prowess. Despite men being considered sexually hypocritical when it comes to the marriage market – and wanting to marry virgins – the men polled were quite open-minded towards women with prior sexual experience. While 54 per cent were happy with their partner whether a virgin or not, 46 per cent insisted on preferring women with prior experience: A case of the stereotype of what men consider ‘ideal wife material’ changing or simply a case of the men giving politically correct answers?

 

http://ibnlive.in.com/news/men-dont-want-virgins-and-women-lie-about-sex/66195-19.html

 

Didn't want to quote the whole thing, but that pretty much cemented that virginity is a curse for men, and men are more accepting of virginity.

[Els]

Ex was a virgin.

 

He would've been fine if he'd actually bothered to WANT to learn and experiment with me.

 

I know you're gonna ignore this. =/

[Dust]

You should just be the best version of yourself you can be. My life is about me, not about impressing the largest number of people or women. Do what gives you joy. Don’t let insecurities or perceived judgments stop you. Don’t sell yourself short. If you want sexual experience you will have it.

[Els]

The OP also conveniently neglected the fact that the EVEN the study (which probably isn't completely accurate anyway) says 23% of women don't mind either way and 8% insist on virgins. Seriously. Anyone expecting 100% of women to like him is going to be in for a serious disappointment. 31% is a decent pool.

[Datura]

That article doesn't "cement" anything - it's good to know some people are so easily swayed. Whatever it takes to play the victim card, by basing self perception on outside opinion and societal standards. Good luck in making progress.

[welikeincrowds]

1. Feeding your anxiety by purposefully searching for material you know will harm you

2. Cherry-picking information to stage a rhetorical argument that is sure to have just as many false assumptions and counter-claims

3. This just in: women prefer men who practice being good in bed; more at 11

[MrNate]

My lord, wtf is up with these threads.

[Woggle]

This shows that men and women with some exceptions tend to be attracted to different things in each other. This is why women can't understand why some men consider experienced women to be bad relationship partners. The thought process is very alien to them but makes perfect sense to them.

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I agree with Woggle.

 

Women tend to think that sexual experience is a good thing, while men tend to get turned off by it. Men want virgins, because they don't compare them to other men, while women want men who are desired by other women.

 

That's probably why more women are bi-sexual, than men. They would rather sleep with men who have slept with other women. It's a sick sort of self gratification.

[KR10N]

I'm not so sure about this. Just the thought of a man being "experienced" makes a few alarms go off. For instance, I don't want to be w/ some dude that's been around & has everyone's "funk". Of course, I'm not just going to sleep w/ a guy the first time I meet him either.

 

You can get "experienced" all you want as long as you're w/ someone, but you can never get rid of that "funk" you got from previous "experiences".

 

Ugh...

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I'm not so sure about this. Just the thought of a man being "experienced" makes a few alarms go off. For instance, I don't want to be w/ some dude that's been around & has everyone's "funk". Of course, I'm not just going to sleep w/ a guy the first time I meet him either.

 

You can get "experienced" all you want as long as you're w/ someone, but you can never get rid of that "funk" you got from previous "experiences".

 

Ugh...

 

Will you marry me?

[KR10N]

Will you marry me?

 

lol

[Star Gazer]

Ex was a virgin.

 

He would've been fine if he'd actually bothered to WANT to learn and experiment with me.

 

Aren't you a virgin?

[welikeincrowds]

Aren't you a virgin?

 

Objection, hearsay

 

You know, this study is bull****. 25 people? "69 percent" of 13 is 9 people. You could get a better study if you spent an afternoon asking random women in New York.

[alethean]

That's probably why more women are bi-sexual, than men. They would rather sleep with men who have slept with other women. It's a sick sort of self gratification.

 

Maybe I am sleep deprived, but I didn't quite understand this statement. What does it mean?

[Sanman]

Okay, the thing here is that it is an INDIAN study. Thus from a completely different culture and one that is more conservative than in the U.S. So, that is 30% of Indian women who don't mind or prefer virgins. My guess would be that those numbers would be lower here. Frankly, I do not care. The question I am wondering about is how many women who preferred sexually experienced men also complain about men using them for sex?

[Eeyore79]

Firstly, 1/3 women were happy to date a virgin, so this by no means supports the assertion that women don't want virgins.

 

Secondly, 73% of women said they would be uncomfortable with a man who had lots of experience, and they preferred the experience to have been gained in the context of a relationship. So while 2/3 women want an experienced man, they don't want him to be very experienced.

 

Thirdly, just because a woman would prefer a man to have a little experience, that doesn't mean she wouldn't go for a virgin if she liked him.

 

Fourthly, I don't think you can rely on that study anyway if it was done in India; it probably doesn't reflect the situation in Western countries.

[salty goodness]

someone please explain to me how a study done in India with a very small sample says anything about men and women and what they want in a partner?

 

yes let's make broad generalizations about millions of human beings based on this and other silly studies.

 

personally i have no interest in promiscuous, slutty men; someone who sleeps with anyone and everyone is not the type of person i want to have a serious romantic relationship with.

[SMHEO]

Very silly comment in the article about a girl not wanting to teach someone about the "birds and bees".

 

Yes, I was a virgin upon meeting my girlfriend but its not as if I had my head so far buried in the sand that I didnt know how to somewhat please a woman. First time we engaged in intimate touching I was able to please her, same goes for oral. Sure woman might not want a guy who doesnt know what or where a clit is, but there is also no excuse for virgin males NOT to know this kind of stuff.