guitarxkid Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 Hey everyone, I think everyone could use some ideas on what to do to get your mind of your ex. Everyone always says stay busy, but what exactly? I've been going to the gym and that helps get anger out and makes you feel good about yourself. Also, listening to Jack Johnson makes me feel good. What does everyone else do?
Pikachu Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 After my breakup I was crushed because I not only lost my exe but our 2 dogs that I thought of as children. So after a few weeks of being miserable I went out and got another puppy. I know I cant replace my old dogs and I would never try but I needed something to come home to at night. Something to take care of and something to take care of me. He reminds me of my babies (same breed and personality) which can be hard at times but he keeps me busy. Funny how much time a new puppy can take up and amazing how much harder it is when your doing it alone for the first time, but its also rewarding in a way. And in my silly little mind I like to think maybe someday when I can face my exe again Ill be able to show my puppy his brother and sister. I know its a dream that'll probably never come true but it helps me get by for now so ill hold on to it.
Author guitarxkid Posted May 20, 2011 Author Posted May 20, 2011 After my breakup I was crushed because I not only lost my exe but our 2 dogs that I thought of as children. So after a few weeks of being miserable I went out and got another puppy. I know I cant replace my old dogs and I would never try but I needed something to come home to at night. Something to take care of and something to take care of me. He reminds me of my babies (same breed and personality) which can be hard at times but he keeps me busy. Funny how much time a new puppy can take up and amazing how much harder it is when your doing it alone for the first time, but its also rewarding in a way. And in my silly little mind I like to think maybe someday when I can face my exe again Ill be able to show my puppy his brother and sister. I know its a dream that'll probably never come true but it helps me get by for now so ill hold on to it. That sucks that you lost your dogs too but look at it this way- keeping them would have reminded you so much of your ex and would have made things a lot harder! Getting a new puppy was the right thing to do
Lilmisus Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 I work a lot. Especially at my new serving job, since it's fast paced, it helps keep me busy and it feels great to be in a new, fresh environment that doesn't remind me of my ex. I'm looking for a new second/third job next week that's also fast paced. I also like to go out with the friends, both girl and guy. Go to the bar, shoot some pool, flirt with some cute guys, maybe watch a movie. Whatever. Just chill with the homies, ya know? But really one of my favorite things to do, is to read. I'm a dork, I know If I can, I read all night. I've done it for years, and it's great because most of my girl friends also are very into the same books (teenage love stories ) I read and we'll just gush over them for hours. It helps to veer the topic away from that no good ex of mine. It's horrible though because this week, I read three nights in a row, after work and till about 6 each time (work at 11), and ended up getting like 8 hours of sleep, max
plasma Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Hey everyone, I think everyone could use some ideas on what to do to get your mind of your ex. Everyone always says stay busy, but what exactly? I've been going to the gym and that helps get anger out and makes you feel good about yourself. Also, listening to Jack Johnson makes me feel good. What does everyone else do? what was your life like up to about 3-4 months before you guys got togther ?
Author guitarxkid Posted May 20, 2011 Author Posted May 20, 2011 I work a lot. Especially at my new serving job, since it's fast paced, it helps keep me busy and it feels great to be in a new, fresh environment that doesn't remind me of my ex. I'm looking for a new second/third job next week that's also fast paced. I also like to go out with the friends, both girl and guy. Go to the bar, shoot some pool, flirt with some cute guys, maybe watch a movie. Whatever. Just chill with the homies, ya know? But really one of my favorite things to do, is to read. I'm a dork, I know If I can, I read all night. I've done it for years, and it's great because most of my girl friends also are very into the same books (teenage love stories ) I read and we'll just gush over them for hours. It helps to veer the topic away from that no good ex of mine. It's horrible though because this week, I read three nights in a row, after work and till about 6 each time (work at 11), and ended up getting like 8 hours of sleep, max Nice! Working helps me get my mind off her too. I don't read a lot but a lot of things in any book will make me start thinking of my ex so it doesn't work in the same way for me.
Author guitarxkid Posted May 20, 2011 Author Posted May 20, 2011 what was your life like up to about 3-4 months before you guys got togther ? Before my relationship? Well, for 5 months before that me and my ex had a long on and off period while she was still stuck on her old boyfriend so not great then but before THAT it was fine, I know I was happy but I wanted something more in life.
Pikachu Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 In my case I have a little to much time on my hands. I also lost my job at the same time as my breakup with my exe. I worked with her father for 9 years and couldnt handle doing it anymore. He was like a father to me so it was hard to walk away but I really had no choice. I know I have to get another job but at this point my family is telling me to think about what I want in life. They are very supportive so I have time but all this time isnt helping much. I feel like im in high school again and my guidance counselor is asking what I wanna do with my life......but now im 28. At least if I had a job I wouldnt think about this so much.
plasma Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 In my case I have a little to much time on my hands. I also lost my job at the same time as my breakup with my exe. I worked with her father for 9 years and couldnt handle doing it anymore. He was like a father to me so it was hard to walk away but I really had no choice. I know I have to get another job but at this point my family is telling me to think about what I want in life. They are very supportive so I have time but all this time isnt helping much. I feel like im in high school again and my guidance counselor is asking what I wanna do with my life......but now im 28. At least if I had a job I wouldnt think about this so much. you have to start making moves now bro, its not going to be easy but the jouney will be well worth it and if you do it right the jouney will be exciting enough to feel your not dependant on them anymore... do you have a few thousand saved up ? new apartment would be a great start and diligently search for work and thinkk about some part time college classes at the community campus, not only you meet and interact with people but you get to be around new prsopects aka girls.... not gonna be easy but you have no other choice!
thehead Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 I work 50-plus hours a week...stay away from TV shows or movies we watched together...got back into activities I gave up in order to spend more time with her (sports, darts)...bought a motorcycle (something she always afraid of)...return flirting from women but stay clear of hook ups...play pickup basketball on Sundays.
Mack05 Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 For me its going to the gym. I was in bad shape when I split from my ex. Suffered from low self esteem and overall lack of confidence and insecurity. I decided one great way to move on from an ex is to make myself feel better. So I slowly starting going back to the gym, then going back more and more. I go every morning and do circuit weight training and in the evening I do spin classes. Some days I feel horribly low and miss me ex terribly but I still drag myself out of bed. It's not easy, but I have been doing it for 2 months and it has just helped me enormously. Excerise is proven to make you feel better and I can testify to this. I went on a date last night and it's the best I have felt in years. My confidence is returning bigtime and I am starting to really like myself again. Other things I do is avoid listenting to songs you both liked, avoid going to places you went together. I have nothing of hers in my house. Plus I do alot of things she didn't like and watch movies she never liked. It's not easy guys but every day is a better day and pretty soon she will just be a faded memory. On the bigger and WAY better things :-)
Author guitarxkid Posted May 20, 2011 Author Posted May 20, 2011 I'm a lot the same. I don't have much self confidence and I can get pretty down on myself. Whenever I go to the gym it helps a lot and makes me feel good. I recommend that everyone gives it a try! Avoiding going to places I went with my ex is next to impossible for me as we live 15 mins away from each other and go to the same school. This can be a big problem because almost everywhere I go I have memories that haunt me
Conscience Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 I was introduced to rock climbing "indoors" and i fell in love with it! Next thing you know I climb every second day and combine that with weight lifting! Man I lost like 40 pounds in no time and my body looks great!!! I never practice a sport where all my muscle are so engaged! Not only that people that hang out in climbing gym's are very cool ! and helpful.... Go for a 2 - 3 hour session and let me tell you your mind is flushed ! Then a couple hours later the memories start to appear again lol that's when you pick up a good book! Hope this helps
radiodarcy Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 mostly i try and focus on my job and work - - lame i know. but it helps. working out helps too - - especially if i'm having an angry day i also read or listen to music - - mostly los campesinos! they have a lot of good songs about romantic disillusionment. if i'm going to watch tv it's usually pbs or animal planet. i can't handle watching shows about dating or relationships. makes me think about how i don't have anyone while my ex is off and happy with his new girl
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