heartbroken555 Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 (edited) I broke NC, i unblocked the ex on facebook and sent her a msg asking how she was doing. She answered back, she was really nice and friendly. we had a little chat about her work, and my work. and basically updated each other about our lives. we didnt mention anything about dating other people. I asked her if she was still playing soccer this summer, and she said she was. Then i joked and said, well maybe u can invite me for one of your games sometimes. and she just hasnt answered since. I know she doesnt want to see me. i know she doesnt want to come back. And its killing me..... I love her so much, and i cant think of anything else. my life is so empty without her and so boring... its been 4 month already, she seems to have completly moved on, and not looking back now that i unblocked her from fb i dont wanna block her again ill look like a fool, but i dont want her to contact me everynow and then and bring me back in a state of misery !! Edited May 19, 2011 by heartbroken555
ShatteredReality Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 You need to stop worrying about how you'll look and just do what you have to in order to move forward. Block her again. NC again. It's like an alcoholic who falls off the wagon...you have to start somewhere. Cut contact completely and every time she enters your brain push her out with another thought...eventually she will enter less and less...I'm sorry for your pain.
Conscience Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 You have to start thinking about yourself, start something new, that's what I did ok well my ex is trying to reconcile with me but still to this day I keep LC "because I have kids with her" you need to find an activity that you will become passionate about for me I discovered rock climbing indoors and outdoors! Do something force yourself to get out there and meet new people I know its hard and the pain is always there but you will eventually learn to coop with it.... Sorry for you pain I know how hard it is I live it every day
nowwhatnow Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 hey i am so sorry for your pain and i feel the same way you do. my ex bf has been gone for 8 months and as far as i know has not looked back. and it sucks. i have not contacted him in 7 months and to be honest, i really really want to talk to him. it has gotten easier because i moved further away but it has not gotten better - and i do not think it ever will. i think about him all the time and miss him a lot. i try to busy myself that will improve me as a person. sorry but thats all the advice i can say. just cut yourself off, cold turkey. its the only way.
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