GivenUp0083 Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 I've been concerned recently over the decision whether or not to contact her on her bday (this saturday, 2 days from now) and I have decided I won't do it and I know exactly why. One of those main reasons is because I know that if there's ever any chance she will come back it will because I ignored her, not because I stayed around. All my friends have told me "just don't contact her, she'll probably come around". Like 12 people have told me this. I don't believe she ever will. I wish I could read her mind so I could know if there's ANY chance of her changing her mind, but I can't help but think of her history. She's always constantly been in relationships. She's had 5 boyfriends in 8 years. She's never been single longer than 6 months between any of them (probably less). Logically I think there's no way she ever comes back. She broke it off with all the others (except her college bf and I can tell she still holds a grudge) and she NEVER went back once to any of the other guys. She had a bf for 2.5 years she looked at wedding rings with and she dumped him cold turkey, no come backs, nothing. I know for a fact HE contacted her on Xmas to say merry xmas but it got him no where, despite that she claims he treated her perfect. I'm not tempted to contact her at this point in time, but I think I'm realizing that there's a really good chance I NEVER hear from her again, and that's the drive behind my desire to talk to her one last time before I'm out of her life forever.
ShatteredReality Posted May 20, 2011 Posted May 20, 2011 Then talk to her one last time. But you cannot keep telling yourself you need to talk to her one last time or it will be an endless cycle. You can wish her Happy Bday if you like and then tell her that you just wanted to say goodbye for your own benefit. There ya go...you've stated your piece, she knows you needed closure and now you move on. I have no clue your story...but I have found that NC is mostly for getting over someone, not for getting them back...LC or something gets them back...perhaps...but mostly you need to prepare for moving forward and mending your heart now.
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