Girlfriend annoyed of me only and I think it is close to over to

[keltin]

Hi there!

 

First off, want to thank everyone for their inputs. I am not very good at writing but will do my best at explaining my situation

 

I have been dating this girl for about 9 months so back in August 2010.

I moved in with her in january 2011 because of circumstances.

Any how, we have both been married before and both our exs cheated. I am 30 she is 29.

 

Any how recently she has been going through a rout of depression, she was diagnosed with this in the past and went to counseling a couple times (before I knew her) but not given any meds or further action.

 

Lately (past month) she has been distant with me an unemotional and this past week seems to have hitter a peak. She seems so happy around other people but when shes around me she is very quite, irratable etc... When I got home last night I happen to see her friend messaging her and nosy me decided to look and here is a summary of what I read:

 

My girlfriend texted her friend asking her to invite just her over Friday night because she did not want to be around a friend of mine or me while we watched hockey and then she went on to say she seems to be only irrated around me and she starting to wonder if that means something. She told her friend that I bug her all the time about asking what is wrong with her and that I don't listen and her friend tried to tell her to take the positives out of it that he (me) is only being caring. Her friend knows about the depression stuff and she has been trying to help my gf.

 

I will admit that I have been clingy and I am over sensitive at times, I think that I have lost myself lately and spending way to much time with her. It seemed at first she likes this but now I notice she is constantly planning to do things with other people.

 

I want to save this relationship and so I going to start working on myself again and give her space to possibly miss me and appreciate me more?

 

Does anyone have any tips they can offer on how I can pull her back, how should I be around her so it doesn't annoy her yet be there for her and give the relationship a spark again?

 

Thanks so much!

 

 

Thanks so much!